How can i get my stuff back?

Question

My boyfriend and i broke up. And i have packed up all his things and am ready to send it all back. Im not so sure about him though. I dont know if he's dome the same. I really want my stuff back. Im not sure how to get it back though. We dont talk anymore and if we do, he ends up pissing me off. Should i send an email, call him, or go over to his place?? If i call him, what do i say? Idk what to do, and i want my things back!!!

Any ideas how you guys got your stuff back after a breakup?
Thanks in advance!!!

and BTW, i absolutly hate him now. i just want my gold jewelry back. =)

Answer 1

I would say call him. It will show you whether or not he's going to be hostile about it or not.

Answer 2

Don't send it and take the chance he will be vengeful. Agree to meet in person for an exchange. Face to face you can be sure you get your stuff. Often things don't get returned so be sure to look for the important things and accept the fact that some things are just going to be written off as part of the break up.

I lost a lot of crap I actually wanted in the last break up but figured it was the price I paid to get away from the creep.

Answer 3

You should arrange to both meet with the stuff at a neutral location with a third party present . That way you both have a witness as to what was returned and what wasn't. I wish I got my stuff back , Corvette , boat and a summer home , oh well that was then this is now :)) .

Answer 4

I had the same thing happen to me twice.... the first time my ex was pretty civilized but still I didn't want to talk to him personally, so I emailed him and told him that I'd drop a box with his stuff at a friend's place (she was one of my best friends and he knew her and where she lived) and that I'd really appreciate if he did the same with my stuff. He said it was ok, and you know, it took him a while to actually do it because "he was busy with work" and yada yada (I guess I still had to message him on his cell phone a couple of times before he went to my friend's), but eventually he dropped my stuff and picked up his and everything was peacefully settled.

Second time it was my ex who actually wanted to come to my place to pick his stuff up personally, then he went to his house and brought me back the only thing of mine that he still had. He forgot a book of his at my place and never called again to retrieve it......... so you better make sure you pick up EVERYTHING at the first attempt hehehe.... good luck.

Answer 5

It's always going to be an uncomfortable situation!
You either need to forget your Stuff and move on without it-Or go round(At a pre-arranged time) and collect .
Communication is the key,regardless of how awkward the break-up was.
Hope this helps you.

Answer 6

Just ask for them back. :/ He's not exactly going to say no, is he? I suggest dropping his stuff round his place and asking for your stuff then; if he says he hasn't packed it all yet just ask if he could have it ready by the next morning. No need to fight about that!

Answer 7

Call him, tell him that you have his things packed and ready for him, and ask him to do the same with yours. Agree to meet at a neutral place, and exchange your belongings.

Answer 8

call the police or sheriffs dept and get a sheriff to go over there with you so there is no trouble . tell the police or sheriff that you need to go pick your stuff up and you dont want there to be any trouble . and then you can get it all back without any incident .

Answer 9

Forget about it its not worth clinging on just replace the stuff. if he doesn't want them anymore he will give them back like you are about to do.

if you start following up on them it will make you look cheap.

leave the past in the past and start working on the future.

Answer 10

What's given is given and is property of the one given to. So in a way, you don't get it back, for it is not yours to start off with. Legally spoken, that is, since some people find it necessary to downrate my answer.