I'm 24 years old women who is tried of being single. I never have a boyfriend and never be on a date. I just tried to see my friend been happy with they boyfriend and going on date. They last time I get noticed from a guy was about two years ago, and they only thing he want from my is sex. I tell the guy "I not that kind of girl". Then he stop talk to me. I have a lot of guy friends, but they have girlfriend, and they are just good friend to me. I never find a guy that is attraction to me. Some of me girl friend say "I'm pretty girl, a good person, very care person, respect and help people, and think of others before me."
I know I'm know I a good person, but I don't feel pretty girl.
The reasons I think that know men don't want is because I'm Black (median dark), over wieght (about 190 pds), short hair (my hair length touch my shoulder), my face don't have clear skin, and I'm virgin.
I just want to know what I'm doing wrong that men don't want to be with me and what can I do?
2007-08-09 02:57:55 · 12 answers · asked by kimbrown34 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do work out and go to the gym at least 4-5 times a week for 45- 60 min. I have lost about 20 pds and I stand have long way to go. My skin as is get clear up and better, it just not 100%.
2007-08-09 03:57:51 · update #1
You may be doing the wrong kind of exercise. If you are doing aerobic exercise, (jogging, walking, swimming) close to an hour 4 or 5 times a week, if is almost impossible not to lose weight. You may be big bone, but cannot remain fat.
That said, you are not doing anything wrong but you weight is a primary problem. I'm 5'-6", 108 lbs and I get a lot of attention. If I was 80 pounds heaver, I doubt that I would.
Then there is the other problem. White guys seldom date black girls. However, have you not noticed that a lot of pretty white girls have a thing about dating black guys and there are a lot more white girls than there are black guys. With the white girls taking so many black men that doesn't leave many black guys for you.
2007-08-17 02:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to hurt ur feelings but if u think u r overweight, y not lose some ? Join a gym or any sport u like. U can get to know new friends. Maybe u were looking at the wrong places, where guys only want sex.
Invest and spare some time to take care of ur skin. I mean even if u r not looking for a bf, u should take care of ur body/skin for ur own good. This will boost ur self-confidence. Then, guys will look at u differently and maybe things can go better for u.
2007-08-09 10:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by EnAjOe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly...The reason why men arent attracted to you is simple...Its because of the weight issue and the fact that you dont and have never had sex. Men view these two qualities as the worst a woman could have. Fat and cant satisify sexually dont sit well with most men. Now there are a few out there that WILL stay with you treat you right and help you lose the weight and wait to have sex with you, but think about it...If you were a man would u wait when there are four other women that will screw the daylights out of you? Why would they stay with you?
2007-08-17 07:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but there is someone out there for you. Inner beauty is what really counts. Take care of yourself by eating right and exercising, but do it for you not for other people. If you want you can get a weave for your hair and Proactive works good for acne and scars I know friends who have used it and it made a big improvement. Stay busy doing things that are going to make you a better person. Be careful where you look for potential mates. Don't take anything that comes your wy. You should feel proud that you are a virgin. Men respect that. you are beautiful, because God made you and he has a pupose for you. You have to beleive in yourself.
2007-08-16 23:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find a guy whose life goals are similar to yours and things will work out - be friendly, talk to a lot of men (online helps too, have all ur instant messengers working, with good profiles that tell a lot about where you are going in life and how you feel) and try to find men who are interested in the same things you are and want the same kind of life that you want.
The other thing would be to relocate somewhere there are a lot of men and few women, like Alaska.
2007-08-09 10:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by glen_loves_fun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, have pride in yourself. You are falling for this society poison about your looks. As long as you take care of your body and carry yourself as such then guys will notice. Try PROACTIVE for your skin, it works on everybody I know including me. Find a really nice hair style that fits your face and make sure your clothes are the right colors, the right fit and accentuate all the positives curves on your body.
2007-08-17 08:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is only skin deep!!! A guy should like you for who you are!! Regardless of your skin color, weight or height!!! Your pretty just being who you are!!! The song that I always listen to that I believe is true is called "Beauty is only skin deep" by The Temptations. I'm 28 years old skinny, cacasin and I've never had a boyfriend. I am vigrin as well. It's tough when I see other girls having boyfriends and I'm stuck being single. I know what it feels like to not feel pretty. I feel that way sometimes. Theirs a guy forever girl in this world. I'm sure you will find one!!! Have faith!! That's what I've been doing!!!
2007-08-16 20:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by P 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It has nothing to with race or you being a virgin. It is probably because you are short, overweight, and maybe not that great looking. Unless you lose a lot of weight, you better have one kick ***, interesting personality. Read books, watch movies, be interesting. Thats really all the advice that I can give.
2007-08-09 10:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You aren't doing anything wrong. The only thing that I can think of is you might want to get to a normal weight. Men like healthy women because they like to know that if they have babies, they will be healthy. Other than that, just be yourself. I'm sure there is someone out there for you. Just keep looking. Good luck!
2007-08-09 10:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Cowgirl26 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you're going for the wrong kind of guys. don't have too high of limits for how they look, but higher for their character.
Have better self esteem...remember when you love yourself it is the greatest love of all. also, people will start loving you.
2007-08-17 04:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by emutts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋