2007-08-09 01:01:27 · 10 answers · asked by eliza 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Long enough to show respect, but not to long as to bore the chuff off everyone. I say about 7-8 min's.
2007-08-09 01:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Wolverine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I disagree with RB - 10 or 15 minutes is too long. Think of how much you'd have to write to read for 15 minutes straight. Allowing time for people to come up and speak (most won't) isn't part of the eulogy time. It's another reason to keep your eulogy a reasonable length.
My BF delivered the eulogy for his brother and it was about 5 minutes, about two and a half typed pages, and it was beautiful.
15 minutes doesn't sound like a lot, but I've sung at weddings, and people usually misjudge how long things take. I never did more than 3 songs max at a wedding. When people wanted more I tried hard to explain how much longer you're making people sit. You don't want to add any more time than necessary, especially at a funeral, where people are grieving.
So, don't stint on what you want to say, but don't make it too long.
2007-08-09 01:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a family member is giving the eulogy, 15 or 20 minutes is good. If it's a friend, half that time. Giving others the chance to speak is wonderfu, but they should limit their speaking time to 5 minutes or so.
2007-08-09 01:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is more important to make it personal and meaning full then long - i think 20 min. would be about right unless people attending would like to get up and share - in that case if it last all night it would be more like a celebration which would be great and go a long ways towards healing to.
but to honor the dead 20 min. would be fine.
a dear acquaintance of mine died - there will be no funeral and i feel sad about this - but there will be an all day all night party to celebrate his birthday a month from now.
i feel it is proper for a group no matter how small to attend either his cremation or immediately following his cremation even if its only five mins. - just to accompany him in some way.
2007-08-09 01:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brevity is best, always. The best speech is a short speech, whatever its purpose, or wherever it is given.
I officiated at the services of my great aunt, then a few years later, for her sister (my grandma). Each time I spoke for about fifteen minutes.
2007-08-09 01:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sky in the Grass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe 10 or 15 minutes. You may want to have it where people can come up and speak, too.
2007-08-09 01:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by RB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to tell. If you hear a funny noise coming from the coffin, you know you've gone on way to much!
2007-08-09 01:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5-7 minutes. You don't want people to fall asleep, but you don't want it to be too short either.
2007-08-09 01:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long enough to knock 'em dead.
2007-08-09 01:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
what the?
2007-08-09 01:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋