Why don't those who claim to be something actually follow it?

Question

If you're going to claim to be a religion, you should follow it, and not put your culture above it.

There are a number of factors that make many Muslim men abusive.

Abusers are often part of a cycle, picking up the habit after watching their own fathers abuse their mothers in North America or in Muslim countries. And their own children learn this abusive behavior and abuse their wives. (This is an important point because the longer the Muslim community tolerates abuse, the longer it will be passed on from father to son, from generation to generation.)

For cultural reasons, some Muslim men accept the idea that it's normal for a man to hit his wife and that she is no more than a piece of his property.

Some Muslim husbands abuse their wives as a result of frustration resulting from economic hardship, political oppression experienced outside the U.S., problems with the children, or an inferiority complex.

Some abuse their wives because they want them to be more "modern" and less Islamic by removing their hijab (Islamic dress), while others are abusive because they want the opposite.

Some Muslims with superficial ties to Islam don't know that abuse is unacceptable due to their weak faith, poor Islamic knowledge, and lack of interaction with the Muslim community.

Tragically, some Muslim men actually use Islam to "justify" their abusive behavior. Focusing on rituals, considering themselves to be Islamically knowledgeable, and disregarding the spirit of Islam, they wrongly use the Qur'anic verse that says men are the protectors and maintainers of women to go on power trips, demand total obedience, and order their wives around. They disregard the Islamic requirement for the head of the household to consult with other members of the family when making decisions.

Then, if their wives dare to speak up or question their orders, these men misinterpret a Qur'anic verse that talks about how to treat a disobedient wife and use it as a license for abuse.

What more can we do to stop this?

Answer 1

Assalam Alaikom, Sister. You know, Sisters could create informal "support groups" in their local community for other sisters who feel they are in abusive situations, with the ultimate goal of counseling the couple, giving good advice, maybe bringing an Imam or concerned Brothers into the picture to council the husband. Divorce, of course, is not the answer, as the man (or in some few cases the woman) will just remarry, and continue the cycle. It is up to us, as an Ummah, to help our Brothers and Sisters change for the betterment of themselves, and ultimately, the entire Ummah. The better people we are, the better Muslims we can become, Insha'allah.

Answer 2

Richard Chan...

I guess this is what majority of Americans are being thought ... for except those who are not ignorrant ... and choose to believe what they think is right ... Jews and some Christans are spreading it through any type of media ... cause they cannot except Qurran And Prophet Mohammed PBUH ... as they are still waiting for their messaiah


all this you mentioned sister is done by people who do not follow islam ... but choose to use it for their own benefit ...this is not Islam ... Since Hindus and muslims lived together for a long times ... Muslim men adopted their culture and things which the muslims came to change in the society of indian sub continent

Answer 3

The first port of call, I'd say, is to make people aware of it. People know so little about domestic abuse within cultural communities because the community cover their backs.

Honour killings and forced marriages, all go unchallenged because the authorities are afraid of offending their culture, and that shouldn't be the case. I mean, sure, don't set out to offend them, but there's law to uphold. No matter people's cultural differences, there is a RIGHT and a WRONG, and even though that the line is blurred in some places, that fact will remain.

I think education should be prominent in this area. You can't just put someone in jail and think their attitude has changed. People need to be educated, the community needs to be shaken from their silence in order to protect vulnerable women and children. People need to be open and unafraid of offending offenders.

Answer 4

You can't change a person's nature as easily as you might think.

Give a violent person a peaceful religion and you won't make them a peaceful person; you will give them something they can twist to justify their actions.
But forget not that humans are very social creatures.

As Lao Tsu taught:
Force a person into acting peaceably and they will defy you at first oppurtunity.
Tell a person to act peaceably and they will ignore you.
But act peaceably yourself and let them be for long enough, and they will come to peace by themselves.


That is all you can do. Live a good life by example and wait for people to come to you.

Answer 5

A lot of this Muslim terrorist rubbish is propaganda,
I you truly want to understand Muslims you should read the Kuran don't trust the media don't trust the Internet,
there is nothing in the Kuran about 75 virgins its just rubbish CNN made up..

Answer 6

before everything, you're portray with a very huge brush. As a element of actuality, maximum professing Christians DO follow the instructions of Jesus. once you notice us fail, you're witness to the very reason that all and sundry human beings, alongside with you & me, prefer Jesus. that's with the aid of our very sin nature, that we prefer a Savior. As to the politicians: i individually can't stand whilst a toddler-kisser says that they are of a undeniable faith yet, they next say, "i do no longer deliver my faith to my public existence." in the event that they actually believe in God, and in Jesus as their Lord & Savior, then they could deliver their faith into their public existence. It could be an element of each element of their existence. If no longer, then they're mendacity approximately their faith. As to your examples: you may properly be Christian and help conflict. particularly some the Founding Fathers have been Christians. They tried to avert a conflict with England yet, whilst it became obvious that conflict could no longer be prevented, they fought it to win against tyranny. interior the comparable way, we tried to avert a conflict with the terrorists. in spite of the shown fact that, whilst they killed over 3,000 human beings interior the twin towers, they began a conflict that we are desperate to end. it incredibly is a conflict to stand against oppression, a conflict against evil. notwithstanding if or no longer we are "torturing" all human beings remains open to communicate, different than for people who could tear down usa. in case you like to work out actual torture, you may see the video clips of the beheadings that the Islamic terrorists have committed. as quickly as you have seen them with an open techniques, you will understand in simple terms what evil we are struggling with. Even Jesus reported, "The adverse would be with you often." Christians do particularly some the artwork to assist the adverse, protestations no longer withstanding. My question to you would be this: As guy or woman who seems to be on the outdoors looking in and critiquing, what have you ever accomplished to result those themes?

Answer 7

You just said it Sister, it is a cultural thing and has nothing to do with Islam.

Answer 8

Anas was a slave with Mohammad pbuh said "Prophet has never beaten us nor spoke an abusive word"

Prophet said, "Better among u r those who are good with their family and I am best among u"

Answer 9

I am against religion.Religion is what crucified Jesus.I follow Jesus and obey the Holy Spirit the best I can.Am I good.No way.Am I doing something special.No i Am just trying to Listen and obey that is all.

Answer 10

Sounds to me the muslims have a big problem here.
At least you are saying something.