She is very close to my husband and is getting married for the 2nd time here soon. She had not planned to have anyone in the family in the wedding really and now I heard that she is having my husband, her other brother walk the horse that she is riding to the wedding. My bro in law's wife is maid of honor. I am upset because I am her sister in law too, and am married to her "favorite" brother. Should I be upset? It seems like me, and her step dad are the only people excluded from the wedding. But her SD might be in it I dunno. Why do you think she is doing this?
2007-08-08 20:06:05 · 12 answers · asked by kkecs07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my mother in law says it and is known to exaggerate, lie, etc... doesnt speak good english.. is from europe.
2007-08-09 00:32:26 · update #1
im thinking of staying home.. my sis in law hasnt said this to me my mother in law did
2007-08-09 00:35:04 · update #2
This is a small family, and I had a courthouse wedding.
2007-08-09 13:02:02 · update #3
She is not doing it on purpose to slight you, and you have to realize that you do not deserve to be in the wedding just because you are her brother's wife. Do not let hurt feelings get in the way of family happiness. Currently, you have just "heard" this and you do not know what is really happening, so why are you worrying.
I just have to ask, did you have her in your wedding?
She might be closer to the other sis-in-law and that is why that she is the maid of honor.
In my family, my best friend was my maid of honor and my sister was a bridesmaid. I did not ask either of my sister-in-laws to be in my wedding because I was not close to them at the time.
My husband was an usher in both of his sister's weddings. In one wedding I filled in as a bridesmaid because one of the bridesmaids backed out a week before the wedding. I was not asked to be in his other sister's wedding.
When his sister's had children, he became the godfather, I was not asked to be the godmother.
You cannot take this kind of stuff personally, it only leads to future family problems. Let her have her special day.
2007-08-09 01:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by nichole2583 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. So attend as a guest, and have a good time. Might be nice to just enjoy, and not have any responsibilities. Right?
2. Ever think that maybe your mother-in-law is trying to cause trouble here?? Don't let her. (As someone with a former mother-in-law who loved to stir up imaginary garbage between her children, I can warn you to be on the alert for this.)
3. Don't say a word to sister-in-law about this. You picked who you wanted to be in your wedding. She gets to pick who she wants in hers.
2007-08-09 00:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty, but I personally would want something more long, and poofy, and fairy-taleish. But I guess it would depend on her age, and body type. If it looks good then, go for it! But it does look like it would be more attracted to the older couples, who aren't getting married for the first time. (which could be your sister in law's case) Well, good luck!
2016-04-01 07:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she would rather you enjoy the day than running after her or doing anything. Don't take it to heart she might have also thought that you are easy going but her other sister in law isn't & would be more upset that she is left out.
Enjoy the day, enjoy it that you don't have to lift a finger on the day.
2007-08-09 00:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume that she is excluding you intentionally. Maybe she is just closer to her other sister in law. You can't let it bother you so much because there is nothing you can do about it. Don't take it out on your hubby either, because he has no control. (I'm not saying you are, but I know we women tend to do that.) Just go to the wedding and enjoy yourself.
2007-08-08 20:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as someone who was married a while back and has an extremely large extended family--it is not always possible to include EVERYONE. Just try to remember that this is her special day and that regardless of whether or not you are in the wedding party I am sure she wants you there.
2007-08-09 04:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really even like this chic? If you were close you could just ask her why? But it doesn't sound like you are so just be glad that she hasn't asked you & you don't have to wear a stupid poofy dress she'll pick for you! This is a blessing in disguise, don't ruin it for yourself.
2007-08-08 20:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by In♥w/mykids! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not have to ask anyone to be in the wedding, whether they are married to her 'favorite brother' or not.
Its their choice, and I would not be offended if I were not asked to be in a relatives wedding. Its THEIR day.
2007-08-09 03:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you should throw a party on your sis in-law's wedding day. Be happy, entertain your friends, and make it as one of the best days of your life!
2007-08-08 20:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So basically what you're saying is that things aren't going the way you want them to go at a wedding that isnt even yours. Yeah , ok, way to be mature about it
2007-08-08 21:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kasandra 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋