I've known my boyfriend for 8 years. We're very close, best friends. Anyhow, we can't keep a good conversation going without it involving sexual talk. My boyfriends hasn't always been like this, he claims it's just a stage. We've both got jobs, so we're not kids. I don't want sex to be the only thing that keeps us together... should i eliminate sexual activity from our relationship for a week and see if he's telling the truth about liking me even if we don't do sexual stuff. We believe is sex after marriage, but we do sexual stuff. Can i get any suggestions, opinions...?
2007-08-08 19:52:27 · 7 answers · asked by nerdftw2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think eliminating sex is the wrong thing to do. I think you need to start having more sex with him. Obviously he is into you, but not completely satisfied with the amount of sex in your relationship.
Spend a week trying to 'wear him out' then see if he still talks about it. Try 5-8 times a day for a week.
2007-08-08 19:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 24 and understand your problem, I think you should eliminate the sexual stuff altogether until you get married, the reason being it causes sorts of feelings that are hard to deal with without being married...for a guy, he may think he loves you but if it's all about sex thats a bad thing, another reason why the sexual stuff may not be so great right now, he ought to like you for who you are and appreciate your talents and personality if all he talks about is your body I suppose its flattering but what does he think about other women? I he can't respect you without sexual remarks then he doesn't really respect you, I know people say it's a phase or say that he just can't help how great you look etc. but its no excuse, he needs to grow up and realize that
2007-08-09 03:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by B B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-marital sex is OK as long as there's not one of you that gets hurt in the process...
Like, you may ge pregnant, are you ready? Will he support you and the baby, just in case?
You may shrae common interests like music, or whatever, but hardly.
If you get married and sex is your only bond, it works for a while, but there has got to be more... attitude, principles, how you deal with everyday stuffs and happenings...
2007-08-09 02:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be lucky that you both enjoy sex and have an apparently good sex life unlike many people. 8 years is a long time and i dont think that the only reason he has been with you is for sex. it might just be a subconcious attempt to keep your relationship exciting.
2007-08-09 03:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by loudernow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, you could try to hold back but that just might start a fight.It will somehow backfire,If he is still with you, and touches your private plases, he must like you, i mean if i didnt like someone, i surly wouldnt want to touch them YES, YES?
2007-08-09 03:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by mailbox_5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to wait till after you are married . you stated we. are you talking about your religious belief if so it.s very bible to wait till after marrage . in my opion?
2007-08-09 02:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but it's truth and he is honest.
2007-08-09 02:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by chupke chupke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋