i talked to my ex today and he said he wants me to be his friend. he said we've known each other for too long. so i guess being friends won't hurt nothin but i`m confused about things. he tells me all he cares about is me and that he misses me.i just dnt think i should take him back after he cheated on me.. if i do then he has got to earn my trust and thats goin to be a challenge for him!! i have took him back SO many times and gavin so many chances in the past when things like this has happened.. thinkin it would get better.. it jus got worse!!!!
i really love him & care bout him n i knw he feels the same bout me but i dnt understand why he jus doesnt think! i dnt wnt to let him go but maybe he dnt apreciate a good thing. Do you think i should be friends with him or just leave him alone all together and start fresh with somebody else?
2007-08-08 19:27:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's already pegged you meaning he already knows he can work his way back to you if neededl and you will accept him back.. I think he's trying to play both fences here so if things dont' work out for him in the future or slim picking out there for him he hasn't tossed you aside. he has left the door open for his benefit here. He's not dumb.
But by the same token its selfish on his part if he expects you to just hang in there and not go on your way in life. But you do love him as you say. And would you be happy with someone else when your this hooked on him now. I would think not and that he's probably hard to get over and he's betting on that.
Sounds like he isn't going to change. So you have to either accept that this man you love has flaws in this manner and deal with it and accept it . or if thats not up to par with your feelings then you will have to make a decision to cut the ties.
Sounds like from his past history he's not going to stop as you said you have taken him back several times. he knows he can always come back and perhaps he doesn't wish he was this way but for what ever reason he won't stop.
This will be your decision only u can make it you and him.
What works for you is your business. nobody's perfect but its what you can live with . it might not be right by other peoples standards but your not living for there approval your doing whats right for you two.
2007-08-08 20:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"i really love him & care bout him n i knw he feels the same bout me but i dnt understand why he jus doesnt think!"
Sorry, sweetie, but he DOES NOT care about you. If he did, he would treat you with respect and not cheat on you.
A friend is someone who can be trusted. At this point, I do not think it is wise to even "be his friend."
There are so many good guys out there and you deserve one. Don't settle for a two-timing loser.
Good luck to you!
2007-08-17 02:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by mjh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was your exboyfriend none of what you wrote matters since you're both going to be friends only. Now if the pattern is that you go back to being friends and get back together again, then you need to break that pattern. In other words, ditch him and find someone who will respect you, not lie to you.
2007-08-16 22:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl if i were u i would move on with my life and i can say that because i ve been there ok my ex boyfriend cheated on me to and moved the other chick in the house that me and him was sharing . and i was not going for that stuff ok so i pack up all of my stuff and i left and went to my guy friends house and stayed there with him until he come looking for me . then i left again and i went to stay with my father .
2007-08-17 02:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are awful and flawed examples of humans so leave him
hes just stringing you along for pre-meditated "its 3am and i remember the time we first kissed and im sad-(reminising to play on your emotions)-- so can i come over?" backup when theres no new girl , p-u-s-s-y
leave him alone i know i sound angry but this is the truth
im actually a nice person.........lol
2007-08-17 01:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to be your friend, let him. act like usual friend.not givin some special attention, not call him often, not texting him,etc that's what you should do.be straight and honest. then he will know what you want.
2007-08-17 01:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by distiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just trying to weasel his way back in, be done with him
2007-08-16 05:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋