Would you have sex before marriage?

Question

Would you engage in premarital sex, despite religious convictions, fears of pregnancies and unwanted responsibilities, possible abortion issues, and all the other painful consequences?

I'm not pro-premarital sex, neither am i against it. I'm just wondering what the majority of people think.

and if its not too intrusive, have you done it before marriage? =)

thanks guys.

yeah, quoting Emmanuel E, i'm on the fence on this one too.
which is why i'm asking.

=D

Answer 1

Yes I would, and I have. I think that it would behoove one to have sex with someone before they marry them. I also think that they should live with them before they marry them. I dont think people take enough time to REALLY get to know the person that they marry before they commit themselves fully. There are so many different aspects to a person, and yes, their sex lifestyle is one of those aspects. A girl could date a clean cut, reserved, businessman for years and then marry him and lose her virginity to him, just to find out that hes an aggressive animal in the sack and she doesnt like that....so much so that she cant see herself dealing with that for the rest of her life. Some people say that if you love that person, it wont matter how the sex is, but it does because it still says a lot about that person. Its just another test to how compatible two people can be, and if you dont test it before committing yourself to someone for the rest of your life, you will never know if your making a mistake or not. (which I guess, you cant ever really be sure of anyways) Too often do people marry someone and then afterwards realize that they arent the people that they thought they were.....which is also common with people who have sex with someone that they like and realize afterwards that that person isnt who they thought they were beforehand. That similarity alone shows that if you can love each other after sex with the same affinity as before, then your chances of loving each other with the same affinity after marrying too...are good.

And Im not saying that you should have sex loosely or unsafely by any means. You should still save it for someone worth your while (and do it with protection!), that you feel you really love...after you have taken the time to get to know them through all other factors that arent sex. But then, BEFORE THE ULTIMATE COMMITMENT, you should take the next step.
Bottom line is....Having sex with someone is like moving in with them in the sense that you will learn things about them that you did not know before. And why would someone want to marry someone without knowing all that they could about them?

Answer 2

This is a good question. I used to be REALLY religious, believed in NO SEX before marriage. Then, I went to work at a liquor store and realized how hypocritical everybody was, even the preacher, and decided to do my own thing. I'm not saying that I went crazy or anything, I just didn't do what I was "SUPPOSED" to do in some people's eyes. Know what I mean? As far as the fear of pregnancies, I take birth control.

Answer 3

Sincerely marriage earlier than intercourse is marrying your big other then having sex. Sex earlier than marriage is truly having intercourse before getting married to that man or woman. Individually for me, I feel in intercourse before marriage, on the grounds that I believe if your in a dedicated & healthful relationship with a purpose to ultimately lead into marriage then have sex all you want & it also relies on the maturity degree of the relationship and how critical every man or woman is about the relationship, however total that is just my opinion.

Answer 4

I would, but I need to be sure. I am still a virgin at 33 years old, but not because I'm waiting for marriage. I have a habit of being very careful (maybe too careful at times), but I've seen other people close to me get into really bad situations because of not being careful. The bad part about it is that now I am always terribly lonely...

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Answer 5

I am very apathetic about this. I wouldn't mind if my girlfriend (Hypothetically speaking, because I am not with anyone right now) wanted to, but if she wanted to wait, I would respect that. Maybe not as long as marriage, but you get what I mean. As long as I am not under pressure, because of how society is these days, pressuring people to have sex and then pay for it with having kids at a bad time or getting STDs, that is if it does happens. I am aware of contraceptives. I am in the middle on this one.

Answer 6

Oh no. I would never consider it. That's one of the first things I learned in the Navy. First, no women and second, no drinking. Just kidding, I've had loads of sex, it's great. Anyone who bashes pre-marital sex is someone I would have no interest in meeting or spending any time with. They are boring people and take life way too seriously. As long as you are safe when you are doing your thing, and everything is consensual, what's the problem?

Answer 7

I think it's the norm these days. There's something sweet about waiting though...in an ideal world i'd say wait. But i think there's nothing really wrong with premarital sex. Unless you have religious reasons.

Answer 8

For me, it just doesn't make sense, getting into a marriage, not knowing how to play, neither, what to expect and do in that crucial night...
...The honeymoon will be remembered as the worst sex in your married life...it will have -at least- a couple of Premature ejaculations, with no orgasms for her..
Awful...
In order to excel in any activity, you need to practice over and over again, until you get proficient...
Then, you can play with confidence..

G'd Luck!!

Answer 9

Well, for guys, it doesn't always make a big deal BUT for girls it is. I wouldn't have sex before marriage ever and the person who is in love with me should respect that (which he does by the way).

Answer 10

I first had sex when I was 17 and slept with a few different guys in college. I enjoy sex.