My 14yo daughter pregnant,please read?

Question

My 14-year-old daughter is pregnant in the middle of 7th month with twin-girls (after some school guys raped her and she didn't go back to school and we didn't call the police for the boys,because she felt very very ashamed).Now she is being homeschooled.My daughter used to be shorter and slimmer then other kids her age and she still is and now her belly is about 50% of her whole height.It is really difficult for her to move and she cannot walk easily.An hour ago she had a painful contraction (she never had painful contractions before) and the contraction lasted for about 10 seconds.I thought it is just the same as her painless contractions (she has been having painless contractions every day since the 6th month).A few minutes ago another painful contraction came and my daughter started crying because she is very scared from the pain and from (eventually) coming delivery.I don't want to take her to hospital so don't tell me so.I want her deliver at home.Any suggestions about the pain?

Answer 1

Good grief! She needs to be seen by a doctor. It doesn't have to be in a hospital setting, but twins??? 7 months??? 14 years old??!! Come on...be the adult here and get her the medical attention she needs. I hope this isn't a real question/real situation.

Answer 2

I just found out yeaterday that my 13 yr old girl was raped by a 17 year old who is continuing to make life miserable....but this isn't about me, but I somewhat understand. HOWEVER...she is 14, not only pregnany, but with twins. She will feel what are called "braxton Hicks contractions. You say no hospital...but for her safety and the safety of the babies, you MUST make sure that if was is going into labor that the babies are in the correct position. Not to mention the pain. She herself is a baby, she will need the option of pain meds. And God forbid something is wrong, such as postion of 1 of the babies, she might need an emergency C section. My sister in law has 2 sets of twins, I was a twin...both sets were C section. Now, it doesn't mean that she will need one, but there is ALWAYS that risk in what is considered a high risk pregnancy. I know that when I was contracting too early, the hospital game a fruit punch drink and made me keep drinking while laying on my side. As a rape victim myself, and now my daughter...you have nothing to be ashamed about. Protect your daughter's health and life and the life of those babies. At 14, she will not undertsand the lamaze breathing, and I won't lie.....I was screaming for the drugs! I screamed for all 3 kids! And on my 3rd child, they didn't give me drugs and I still feel terrible about his delievery. The pain, no doctor in the room, the hemmoraging, and the cords were around 2 of my 3 kids necks and they needed immidiate attention. If she delievers early, the babies with need the extra support that only a hospital can provide. Take it from me, someone with experience, there is no better guilt than being a "twinless twin." My sister didn't survive. Please consider the hospital. Plus your daughter souonds so tiny....my sister in laws twins, both sets, the boy was over 8lbs and the girls were almost 7. Give her a controlled environment....she's a child have children, this way, she will have everything she needs right there for her and those babies. P.S. I was a teen mother and I was treated with respect and understanding. Please go to the hospital.

Answer 3

I, in my heart, think you want her to deliver at home, so the babies and your daughter cannot have much of a chance to make it.

What did you expect anyone to tell you? Have you arranged for a midwife? if so why haven't you called her? If not, then in many states having a baby at home with out one is illegal.

But oh well, your daughter can't prosecute the boys, because she feels ashamed.

Why didn't you bolster her up enough to prosecute, and why is she being allowed to feel shame about a crime against her?

Was it her idea or your idea to take her out of school? Was it before she started showing? If so you just deepened the feeling of shame on her part.

Now she isn't allowed needed medical attention? At her age she could bleed to death, before you get off the phone calling 911, let alone getting an ambulance there. Oh but wait, no one is to know about this shameful thing that happened to your daughter.

I am wondering just who got her pregnant, you are trying to cover up so much.

You know the babies need to have a chance at being financially supported by their natural father. Why are you taking that away from them?

17 minutes after posting earlier.... I figured it out. taking the daughter to the hospital, would require by law, questions being asked. Questions that the mother is all for hushing up and sweeping under the rug.

Maybe it is better to have the babies and daughter possibly die rather than answering questions. That seem to be the crux of the matter.

I wish I was within earshot, then the 14 year old mother would be getting a chance to have a safe birth.

And according to the postings of the poster, she is pregnant also. I wonder if she get's to go to the hospital ?

Answer 4

She needs medical attention, of course she needs to be seen by a doctor! Would your want your daughter to die just because you didn't want to be ashamed come on lady! I cannot beleive you didn't call the police, what the hell is wrong with you, have you gone insane! The first thing I would have done is called the police and have those boys arrested! Secondly, I would have called the schools administration and tell them how on gods green earth could they let this happen! It's not to late to call the police! Alot of women are raped and don't say anyting until days, weeks, months, or even years! But she DOES need to see a freakin doctor!

Answer 5

This sounds quite complicated.

Do you have a midwife? Any medical professional to help you through this? You are going to need it because it sounds like she is too young to live through this without advanced medical equipment.

You must at least take her to a doctor to see if she must have bed rest for the rest of her pregnancy if you are trying to keep the babies and her alive. Perhaps he can give her some drugs to keep the contractions down or the pain down.

Keep 9-1-1 (if you are in the USA) on your speed dial because I don't think this will be an easy pregnancy.

Good luck

Answer 6

Wow, first off why do you even bother writing a message to strangers when YOUR daughter NEEDS you? If it has been confirmed that she will be having TWINS I would SUGGEST you get her to the Hospital...Twins Always come early, I was 2 1/2 months early.....If she delivers those babies at home, they may NOT have the Oxygen they need to LIVE......So this is not the time for you to be ignorant, get her to the hospital the sooner the better.....Don't give her any thing for the pain, as it might not be Safe for her to have it if she needs to have a C-Section or has other troubles......

Answer 7

If you don't take her to the hospital, your chances of having premature twins is very high - and survival rate at this stage of pg is hard enough with ALL the equipment they would need at the hospital.

You as her mother need to do the right thing by your daughter and her babies. Why don't you want to go the the hospital? Have you been taking her for her check-ups during this pg? The hospital is NOT there to judge, only help.

Answer 8

call her midwife and ask her for advise. time the contractions and see if they are regular. if so, call the midwife around incase of complications. a warm bath if water hasn't broken helps sometimes. heat pack on her back maybe a massage.
As for not taking her to the hospital, you have to think" who's having the babies and needs the medical attention. She may want stronger pain relief. It's HER having the babies and it's HER needs that need to be met, not yours. She may have complications so should be at the hospital to deliver especially being a first time and with twins
good luck

Answer 9

You Mama need some serious help also. In the world there are many boys doing this thing and they are getting younger by the minute. You should have reported it to hell with what people think...About having her kids there in your house!! Are you mad? What happens if there is a complication and you can not control it. Are you ready to risk losing your daughter and grand babies? Think women her best chance is in a hospital where they are trained to handle every thing and have the proper tools for the birth. Pray....

Answer 10

She needs to see a dr,. ASAP. she maybe going in to preterm labor. Especially at her age and with twins. Usually by now she should be on bed rest. Please get medical attention, she may need a c-section and you could lose your daughter as well as the babies.

Is this the same girl that posted the question about having more kids right away to give her twins a companion?

Answer 11

Considering how small she is, having the children at home is very dangerous for her and the unborn children. Twins tend to come early, so that could be what it is. Something is not going right and not taking her to the hospital is abuse. She is 14 and your responsibility. Just keep in mind that if something happens to her, then it is your fault, and you will go to prison for it. I cannot believe you are being selfish like this. A small young girl carrying twins is a complicated pregnancy and a professional needs to see her.