Well, the other day my mom gave me this speech about how important it is for parents to raise their children to be an individual and learn to stand on their own two feet. She knows I am different and unique and I see everything in a completely different perspective. Such as, I asked her if I could get my nose pierced, she said if I brought home As and Bs this next school year. Well I come to find that this verbal agreement we had made, she was not going to follow her part. So then today I ask her if I can get my Traguses pierced. She said no, because her answers was because I am too beautiful. I told her that wasn't enough reason to say no. My best friend has had a couple of talks with my mom and has basically said in a nutshell that when I turn 18 and am out of the house I am going crazy. Which I have no doubt I will.
It's a piercing, I will care for it. And it will close up. I think its stupid, do you.
By the way I'm 16.
2007-08-08 18:30:28 · 19 answers · asked by smexibiotch3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's just how parents are, they don't like the idea of their children ruining the bodies that they've gone to such lengths to protect. It's like, sure it'll close up, but will it scar? Parents are always like that, you just have to live with it, respect your parents wishes and wait 3 years. Also another thing with parents is another parent will look at you and go, oo, why does she have that nose piercing, why did you let her get that? Your mothers possible reply: because she wanted it. The other mom then sees your mom as a bad parent so reputation is in there somewhat. I think it's stupid, but it's pretty like ya know, expected. For instance, you spend like 3 hours painting a room, but then, suddenly, the ladder decides it's going to fall, bashes in some of the wall, ruins the paint job. More time is going to have to be put into it to make it beautiful again. Not that you're like this wall and it'll make you ugly or whatever lol It's just that's probably how your mom sees it, get it?
2007-08-08 18:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I'm sure you are unique, just like everyone else. However, when you are an adult you will realize your mom is just human too. You aren't perfect are you? Then why do you expect your mom to be? The fact is that she is your mom and she can tell you what to do and what not to do. She also has the right to change her mind without cause, and without explanation. It could be that she thought about it and decided it wasn't in your best interest to allow you to have a piercing. It isn't like you HAVE to have it or you will die tomorrow, is it? It may not sound fair, but that is something else you will learn to accept with time--life isn't fair. When you have a teenager you will be understand your mom a lot better. You will think back and recall all of the positive things she did do, but you never noticed because you were too angry and focused on what she didn't do. She may not grant all of your wants, but I'll bet if she is like most moms she takes care of all your needs.
P.S. I can't think of one person I know who has raised a teenager that doesn't say at some point "I can't wait till that kid is 18 and then they are OUT of here." It is said out of frustration and not because they don't love the child, or that they really even mean what they said.
2007-08-08 18:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you think is so important today will seem trivial in a few years. Most girls who get piercings and tats wish they had never done it when they get a couple of years down the road and enter their careers or become wives and mothers. More parents should say no to this. Listen to your parents, respect their opinions and wait until you are on your own to defile your body if you must. Right now you are a normal, rebellious teenager. Sow your wild oats on your own time when you are on your own. You'll see then that your employers and boyfriends/husband, won't care for a pierced woman, and neither will you.
2007-08-08 18:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know it isnt the answer you want to hear but my 7 kids must follow house rules. No tatoos until you move out, and I reluctantly let the girls get their ears pierced ONCE in each ear. Anything else that anyone wants to get pierced has to wait till their 18 yrs old or until they move out. I do this not because I am necessarily against it, even though I wouldnt do it to myself, but because it gives the kids time to think about making those changes to their bodies and do they really want to do that. Some things cant be changed back! A kid at the local grocery store has 50 cent piece size holes in both ears. thats an awful lot of missing tissue! Have you ever thought of using the magnet one? I tried one a while back so I could freak out hubby and my kids! It worked! I freaked them out and laughed so hard I snorted it down my throat! ROFL Good Luck!
2007-08-08 18:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by tpettee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wanted by nose pierced from the age of 14. My parents said NO WAY so the day after my 18th birthday I went to get it done myself. No joke, I stopped in a bathroom before I got to the shop to make sure my nose was clean and there was a woman at the mirror. Her nose looked HORRIBLE. She had just been to the same place to have her piercing checked. She had had it done about 2 months prior and had a horrible infection and then was scarred from the experience and sores. She told me PLEASE, don't do it. It's not worth it.
Needless to say, I didn't get it done. I won't get a piercing on my face anywhere else either for the same reason. It's mostly passing fads anyway. Just think about all of the people who have gotten tribal tattoos on their lower backs or band-type thorn tats on their arms...those won't just go away once the fad passes.
2007-08-08 18:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think piercings are rather stupid. I also think that the prediction that "when I turn 18 and am out of the house I'm going crazy" is the very best evidence that 16 year olds should not be allowed to make adult decisions.
It also makes me feel a bit ill when I must converse with people wearing rings and decorations in facial piercings.
2007-08-08 18:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by treebird 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It may seem very unfair that your mom backed out of your agreement (and in a way it is) but all in all she has your best interest at heart. As a person who moved out at 16 ,got their first piercing at 14 and first tattoo at 19 i understand the need to express yourself,But take my word on it that when you get older your mothers love will mean more than any body modification.
2007-08-08 18:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you asked tells me something. You respect your mom's wishes. You are still under her authority. She is just looking out for you sweetie. Maybe she just doesn't like body piercings and doesn't want to give you permission. If I was her I'd be real honest about it. It won't be too long till you'll be on your own and do as you please.
2007-08-08 18:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by northbeachbum 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sorry but have to agree with your mom. You may want to get the piercings now, but it won't hurt you to wait until you are 18 to do it. It is unfortunate that your mother made the agreement and broke it, but it is still her decision. On the bright side at least you have good grades.
2007-08-08 18:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jake S 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Grow up. Then you'll understand. There are far more important things in life than worrying if your mom will let you have a piercing or not.
2007-08-08 18:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by pa 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋