How do I free myself from blackmail?

Question

I'm 21 and had a casual fling with my gf's divorced mother (about 50) while my gf was at the office. She seducted me by various intimate physical acts. When I resisted she insulted me by saying I was not a man, and if I was a real man, I must prove it. She now wants me to do it more often and threatens to tell everything to my gf if I don't obey. We've done it twice, but the last time with my gf was a disaster. I could not satisfy her at all. She is angry because she suspects I'm seeing someone else, but she does not know I've done it with her own mother.
I'm very worried and anxious. Should I confess? Please help how I must face this situation.

Answer 1

Confess!! But I'm sure you will no longer have a girlfriend. Or Maybe ask them both to join you, they sound freaky like that!

Answer 2

Confess NOW RIGHT NOW NOT LATER RIGHT NOW!!! She needs to know that you have done this horrible act and that you do feel sry. However, dont just tell first, instead show her that u did something really wrong and you want to fix it because it is tearing you appart ONLY IF IT IS TRUE she has the right to know. And there is no such thing as a casual fling with a divorced mother it is sick and outragious. Bro i hope you feel like **** because your gonna get alot on you when she finds out from her own mother! (her mom has the cards and she can set them down at anytime)

Answer 3

ok wow! this is a tough situation you got here! ok this is totaly wrong and if u told ur gf she would probably not forgive you even if she does love you! but what u have to do is escape from her mother no matter what even if she does tell because chances are your gf will get REALLY mad a her own mother more then she will get mad at you! And you never know her mom might just say that to scare you she probably woudn't want her own daughter to know she would do such a thing and have her think mom would do this to her! SO ur gf's mom probably wont tell her daughter she has been practically forcing u to have sex she probably just wants you to keep doing it obviously! but you never know but stop having this affair first of all! But she might tell her daughter but she'll probably hate both of you but! well thats the best i can do..

Answer 4

I think the best thing for you to do is tell ur gf abt wht happen and how her mother tried to seduce u. It is better then cheating, lying to her n hurting her, i know she will be hurt by the fact that u did
it but if u tell exactly wt happen then she might understand. If u keep on falling for her mothers trick , then thats not nice go straight to ur gf and explain everything. Who cares abt manly stuff at this time of life , if u really love ur girlfriend then u really need to fight for her. By agreeing to her mothers blackmails then u r just making her mom happy n hurting urself. I know this is hard but someday eventually she is gonna find out , so let her know the soon as possible. I hope everything goes well

Take Care

p.s. if she loves u she will understand ,say sorry to ur gf and say that were helpless , Sorry is just word but means alot of things. n also not telling her would not be manly.

Answer 5

Man, you've got bigger problems than this situation because it is your lack of character that got you here in the first place. You need to be a man and just say no. Leave this situation on your own will and tell your girlfriend after you've removed yourself from their lives (she'll be hurt but will appreciate an explanation). Stop being so weak and man up. You'll continue to live a cycle of poor behaviour and choices if you don't learn to control yourself.

Answer 6

Ok if I was in that situation first thing I would say is that I was screwed but there may be a way.Ok now you will have to confess because if she hears it from her mother then her mother will probally lie and say you suduced her.So you have to talk to your gf alone far away from her mother.You will have to tell her the truth and if you arew telling the truth then tell her that she came on to you.Theres a 20% chance she will believe everything you say and theres a 80% chance that she will only think its your fauly and try to kill you but either way its going to be hard but you can do it!Good Luck!

Answer 7

wow you are kind of in an akward position..umm i would say confess, i mean the fact that her own mother isn't being honest with her...that is not really good..and you say the last time with ur gf was a disaster? well relationships arent all about sex i mean do you satisfy her with anything else except for sex? well, if you do try with your girlfriend one more time and it is even worse i would take a break from all of it dude. as of her mother? i wouldnt make it any more akward than it already is man.

Answer 8

You must defend your manhood! Your gf now thinks you aren't man enough to keep her satisfied.
Own it and fix it.
If it were me, I would opt out of the relationship with the girlfriend and find someone who doesn't have a lunatic for a mother.

Answer 9

In more way than one I wish I was in your shoes. But you may be really having this problem!! In that case I ask you to dare the woman to cme out clean and make it public. You can always defen successfully by saying " she just wants to break us up"

Please do not confess to these things. They do more harm.

Answer 10

Man... there's no gettin out of that one. Your only options are to tell her and then she'll more than likely break it off with you. Or, not to tell her, and then have her mother tell her and she'll still break if off with you. Hate to say it but you dug yourself quite the whole. Guess the real question for you, is which road do you want to take? The one that shows remorse, or guilt? Good luck man.