Want a baby at 17!?

Question

I am 17 and thought I was pregnant in March but I am not. Lately I have been wanting to get [regnant but my bf does'nt want a baby right now but he said he would stand by myside if I did get pregnant. But I am on the pill and we use condoms so I doubt it will happen. Have you ever experienced this feeling? I mean sometimes I want to not take my pills but I would never get pregnant on purpose behind someones back.

Answer 1

I was pregnant at 16 and you do not want to be pregnant. Trust me on this one. I know adults say this all the time but you do not want to ruin your teenage years. You have freedom now and you might want to keep that for as long as possible. Its funny when your a teen you can't wait to become an adult because you think it gives you freedom and as adults all you want to do is go back to the carefree days of your youth. Its not all its cracked up to be.

Answer 2

I have to tell you darlin, that what you are feeling is so normal. However you should really think again. You are very young. are you still in highschool? you want to graduate and get some kind of former education and really get your life in a good direction before you bring a child into your life. You want the best for your child, right? Pregnancy is a tough time as well as a joyous time. Most times everything goes great, but sometimes it doesn't . Are you mature enough to handle if something were to go wrong? I had a child at 20. I was so excited, my boyfriend was not but stood by my side. Everything was great, joyous...until....my little baby died in his sleep. There I was 20, with not a stable relationship, alone, grieving. I'm not saying that chances are the baby would be healthy..but their is always a chance. Give yourself some time. If this is what you truly want than you will still want it in a few more years. Decide how you are going to make a living, will you marry?, get your own home, settle down a bit and then bring a child into the world. But please think first. And if you do *trick* someone into a child by decieving him, than do you really have a relationship to build a lifetime with? Honesty is the only way and if you are deceptive, are you being a good partner? Think first.

Answer 3

I'm sure your baby is fine. I ask the doctor questions like this all the time. I have two large dogs that are not exactly well behaved and they jump on me all the time. I asked if they could hurt the baby but they always reassure me that she is very well protected in there. I'm 26 weeks pregnant and for a while it seemed like she was on a schedule and I could predict when she was going to kick. Now it's just random. I wouldn't worry about it too much. The baby is also pretty small at 17 weeks so he or she is probably moving you just can't feel it every time. If you cant stop worrying about it call your doctor's office and ask to speak to an advice nurse. Good Luck and congratulations on the baby!

Answer 4

Yes at your young age it's usually that you are missing some thing you want someone to love and take care of that will love you no matter what .Honestly you need to really think about because once you have a baby you can't go back, you need to be in joying your life before bring someone else into it like a baby . Anyone can love their child but at your age can you really give your child the best he or she needs it doesn't always come down to how much you can love there's so much more.If you are serious about having a baby then the best thing for you to be doing right now is worrying about school ,so you can bring up a child up financially. Don't make a mistake that you can't go back on.

Answer 5

I remember at 19 I was in love, living with my boyfriend, and I thought about having a baby at some point...and then I WOKE UP! Please don't have a baby at your age...it may sound like a good idea right now, but think about what you'd be missing if you became a parent right now. And your boyfriend, you're 17, do you REALLY think you guys are going to be together for ever? If you really want a baby with this guy, get married, stay married for at least 5 years, and THEN think about having a baby. I'm now 29, and I look back at all of the wonderful things I would have missed out on if I did have a kid back then...graduating college, traveling, drinking, going out with friends, vacationing, and, I probably wouldn't have met the man of my dreams!

I'm now 29, I've been married for 5 years, and I'm just now expecting my first child, and I'm still very nervous. I can only imagine what life would have been like if I did have a baby at 19 years old...my life would have sucked. And, I would have been attached to my boyfriend who I now despise....I thought I loved him, and now I thank GOD he's gone. He had already left one son behind (that I didn't know about), he would have left another child behind as well if we had a kid together. He's turned out to be quite the deadbeat dad.

Your bf is making a very wise decision not wanting a baby right now....also, you're only 17..get your education first.

good luck...there's plenty of time to have a baby down the road!

Answer 6

WAIT!!!!!!

You should wait, who knows what can change in a year or two. The two of you may break up. If your boyfriend doesn't want a baby then it is best not to even think about it. A boy can say he would stand by you but that doesn't mean he will. If you were alone raising this child what would you do? Could the two of you even support the baby? Do you both have full time jobs with benefits (health care)? This is a HUGE responsibility and will change your life. Just enjoy life right now, lots of time to have a child later.

Answer 7

Listen to Christina H and Kittykates, they know what they are talking about.

When we're young, we all want to be adults so we can be in control and make decisions. When you get out on your own, you'll feel more in control. Babies are so cute and loveable, but...they are so much work and you just don't have a life. Especially if you are not ready for them, like no money, no home, no mom and dad together to raise a child. You have plenty of time to be a mom later in life. But now you should enjoy being free and having time for you, boyfriends and friends. I wish I could go back to being a teen, I don't want to lose the knowledge I have, I just want to go back to the less responsibility. Being a mom, wife, homemaker, etc is exhausting.

Your are definitely not alone though, my daughter at 16 has wanted a baby since she was 14. She and I are going to love all the babies we come in contact with.

It sounds like you want to grow up, and you are. You are 17. Do you have plans after HS? If not, make plans. College, career, jobs, or something to look forward to so you have direction in you life, unless it's already picked out for you and you want out of it. Is that the case?

Answer 8

Honey, you should wait. I had my son at 18 and that was hard enough. I've had friends who had babies younger and it was so much harder for them. Trust me it's not worth missing out on your childhood just to rush into adulthood. Experience life a little more and if you really want to know what it's like to have a baby ask a friend to let you babysit for an entire weekend.Just tell them that you want to give them a break. Live your life first so that you will not have any regrets about things you couldn't do because the baby was sick or fussy, or you couldn't afford it because that baby needed diapers and clothes. Last of all be up front with your boyfriend. Let him know your feelings so you two can work through this together.

Answer 9

Ok....bad move. Think about it. You are 17!! Do you know the cost of having a baby these days? You have prenatal visits (about 20) then the cost of the delivery, then all the stuff that goes with them (clothes, diapers, wipes, bottles, formula, medicine, pediatrcian appts that are required, Cribs, strollers,sheets for that bed,car seat, too much to list really), and thats just the first week!! Kids grow out of clothing and shoes on average about every 3 months. Plus assuming your kid is healthy, you have to feed that kid. If he's not healthy, you have medicine, pediatrian appointments and tests. Also, are you going to work or stay at home? If your BF works, can he afford to pay all that stuff and if you work, can you afford a day care? They run about $250 a week nowadays.
Babies are great dont get me wrong, I have 2 myself. But I waited for the perfect man, a comfortable home, a comfortable income and a nice neighborhood for that child to grow up in. I had my first at 29. Perfect age for me. My sister first had hers at 25. Great age for her. There are alot more things to think about. Think about the future and aim for that. If you are dead set on trying to have a baby, give yourself a goal. Set out at 5 years, if you are still super intersted in 5 years, do it. I'm sure by then, you will have gotten older and a little wiser and having a child will be a little more of a priority instead of a one night thing. Give it time.
Good Luck!

Answer 10

I recommend you wait to get pregant your too young to handle all the screamn adn cryn plus work to get money for doctors diapers formula car payment & insurance an food. Trust me lots of work to earn money but not havn money stresses coupels out and causes fights and sour moods which the baby can sense and cryn no stop which incresese the bad mood. Please Wait until your older.
Right now ur old enough to get a car and a job adn have fun and go to the beach adn movies. with a baby u cant go dop that stuff useless you can fidna baby sitter adn can afford one.