My son 19 just moved out on his own, and i am kindof happy for him. He graduated from HS, has a good paying job, and is going to take online courses for college. I helped him built trust in himself since he did not believe in himself since my divorce from his dad years ago, and made him belive that he is not the looser his father thinks he is. I was hard on him most of his life, so he could be the best man he can be once he is on his own two feet. He now is happy to be out on his own and I am happy for him. I should feel sad that he has moved out today, but I am not. maybe a little, but more happy for him so he can really learn what it is like to stand on your own two feet. Is it wrong of me not to feel the empty nest snydrome? He has not been the most responsible kid with having ADHD, but I think that this will help him to learn responsibility. Am I feeling the right way as a mom? I am sure that it will hit me once I come back into his room tomorrow and see it empty.
2007-08-08 17:46:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it can be sad but he's old of enough and on his own now. I'm sure he'll come back and visit but don't be down about it, be happy that he's in college for a career.
2007-08-08 17:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, you wish for the best for your child.
Here are some ways you might support yourself-
Recognize that it is normal to have mixed feelings when your children leave home. Feelings of pain and loss often accompany separation from loved ones. It is also normal to feel a sense of relief when your children leave for college, and to look forward to some time alone, or with your significant other, or with your younger children.
Do your best to maintain your own sense of well-being. This may involve eating and sleeping well, exercising, and setting new and creative goals for yourself. Perhaps this is a good time to do some of things you put off while your children were growing up-taking on a project or hobby can be an excellent way to channel your energy and feelings.
I hope this helps:)
2007-08-09 01:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Itoshii 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is appropriate for parents to want their children to grow and succeed. You should be happy that you have raised him well and he is ready to try to make it on his own. It is also normal as your children age to want to have the simpler life that not caring for a child can provide.
Don't worry, you will have times you miss your son and are sad. Your emotions are complex. Do not expect to feel them all at once.
Please note that Itoshii has placed a website in her answer, that is for her own for profit on line counselling service. If you need counselling I would recommend you seek it from a mental health counselor in your area who you can see face to face.
2007-08-09 04:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by US_DR_JD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u're happy that he's learning to stand on his own two feet. just because u're not sad, does not mean u don't love him.
2007-08-09 00:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by .......!!......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK, MOM!!!
YOU DID A GREAT JOB!!!
2007-08-09 01:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋