I Still Have No Idea On How To Find Him?

Question

I still have no idea how to find my birth father. I've tried some of the things i was told that would be helpful like joining Classmates.com to try to find him, and nothing, no answers at all.. anyone have any ideas on how to find him, all i know is that his initials are probably JP and i have a picture of him, so any way you can tell me how to find him that's be great. i cant ask my family, they like hate him for some reason, but i'm also begining to wonder if he even knows i exist.. i have been wanting to find him for a long time, and i've been trying, but nothing seems to be working.. so yea, any help/advice you can give me, i'd greatly appreciate it.

his name isnt on my birth certificate, i tried that one...

Answer 1

Do you have any idea where you were born? A birth certificate is sometimes the best way to start......

Answer 2

I would personally have a long conversation with my family and tell the that it's important to me to do so. Because I'm sure they know more than they want to say. If you tell them that you want to find him so badly that you even asked people on the internet to know how could you be able to find him it will trigger something.

I wanted to find my older step-brother and to do that I was sure that I had to get through my father, I thought he knew at least where he was and the weird thing is he didn't know a thing and the only family member he saw in his life was me.

I finally found my older step-brother by my mom who saw his mom and we were invited to his place for x-mas, he didn't even know I existed because his mom didn't know either. My mom knew because he was cheating on my step-brother's mom to be with mine. crazy family I have I know.

Now my step-brother is my best friend and my mom and his mom are friends too, that's weird as well but true.

The reason why I'm telling you that you should look from within your family is because if you try to find him by looking on the internet. If your father is over 40 forget about he wont be having accounts on websites you'll need more than a picture to find him. If only you could know his full name and an idea of where he lives then maybe you could look up in the directory listing.

Don't lose hope it was studied that if you would want to send a message to a celebrity you would simply need 9 people to do so. So finding someone that people knew in your family should be as easy. And if within your whole life you didn't find him it was because it was better that way.

I know now that if I would want to find my dad now a days I would only have to search in montreal, in the streets because my father was so immature and irresponsible that he lost everything and he lives on the streets.

Answer 3

got a myspace, if not get one, post his pic on your page and post a bulletin asking people to see if they recognize the man in the photo, make sure to ask everyone to repost the bulletin, and keep you profile set to public so everyone can have a look to see if he looks familiar,-don't forget to also leave your myspace url at the bottom of the bulletin. Just a suggestion, but I think it could work, everyone seems to be in everyone else's extended network. If I get your bulletin, Ill even message you back and let you know that it is out there for all to see. Good luck, I just found my 2 half-brothers ( my bio-fathers kids) in 2000!

Answer 4

Hi do you have any idea what school he might have gone to ? because classmates has a list of the people registered that went to that school.. you can email everyone of them and ask.. I know because I did the same exact thing... was your mother a teen when you were born? if so start with her school and ask her classmates trust me people remember alot when you jog thier minds... good luck hun if all else fails ask your family again it isn't fair that they keep this from you... if you do get any info let me know I might be able to help you

Answer 5

Do you know his name? Your family should be able to help you out in that area!
Then just bite the bullet and hire a detective. It will probably save you money (and definitely time) in the long run. Private investigators know what they are doing!

Answer 6

Give an advertisement in the newspaper or TV with the photo . The caption may be like this " Child searching FATHER". A biological father can never ignore his child.

Answer 7

i have a son who asks about his father sometimes...has never met him. its a really hard thing to talk to him about, because his father was a sucky dad, basically a seed. he repeatedly asked me to have someone adopt our son because he didnt want to meet or pay child support for his child. sometimes things arent perfect. movies do that to you. really, you need to ask yourself something very pertinent:
'what am i missing?'
youre not missing your daddy because he hasnt been there...right?
your family could be protecting you from some hard news...right?
its nothing personal if your dad hasnt been in your life. hes broken in some way, and you might be setting yourself up for the worst fall ever by thinking hes going to jump up and hug you and swear he couldnt live another day without you if you met him...if that was the case, youd have met him by now. you need to understand people in general. this isnt the movies. unless you think your mom is keeping you from him, give it up...seriously. not everyone is strong enough to be a parent. when you grow up, youll understand. im not trying to be harsh, just honest. you should count your blessings, count them every one, and then his absence will grow smaller.
if you still fell like you absolutely have to meet him and victimize yourself, then the only way to go is to hire a private investigator. itll probably cost you at least 10k. im sure ill get a million thumbs down, but life isnt always poetry, you have to work with what youve got and be thankful for what you have, instead of focusing on what you dont. i didnt know my dad til i was 22, and i now dread his obligatory phone calls and his awkward questions like 'so...what kind of music do you listen to?'.

Answer 8

even though u don't want 2 i think the best thing is to ask your mum! if u dont want to do it face to face write her a letter, tell her how you feel. how u want to know him! then ask her if she knows any details of where he is!

if you come to a last resort ring a show like 'The Jeremy Kyle show' his team will help you to find him!

good luck!

Answer 9

Get a Private detective.

Answer 10

Yeah I got one! Pray to God, and ask him with all your heart to find your brith dad, and maybe your family hates him so much is because he proby did something really unthinkable!!! and bad! to you or to them or to someone they love or really care about and yeah all you have to do is to pray to find him thats all. Good luck!