What excuse should I give my Mental Health case manager tomorrow to prevent her from coming to my house?

Question

I don't wanna face dealing with her. She's gonna come to my house & try to tell me how to live my life & try to control me. & she looks for reasons to call me irresponsible for no reason. She wants me to stay in a DEPENDENT state of mind & she told me that I will one day get into some serious trouble not asking for help & trying to do things on my own. & also, she said that the next time she sees me, I better have a relaxer/perm in my hair & I better look nice. Why do I have to dress up nice for this lady? Her job is to help me REGARDLESS & not judge me based on my looks.

Answer 1

I think you should seriously check into getting a new case manager! I would go over her head & tell them what is going on & ask for someone new! It doesn't sound like this lady is trying to help you at all! You are an adult and no one should be telling you how to live your life...except you! I don't know what you should tell her to keep her away...but good luck tomorrow babe...I hope things work out for ya! =D

Answer 2

As a Case Manager she more or less has a duty to visit you so many times. Any excuse is going to be just that, an excuse. and this will give her more ammunition later. If she is abusive, make a concise report to her supervisor. Try to be clear ONLY, remove all emotion. I know that it is hard; however anytime we introduce emotion into a complaint, we end up sounding goofy.

As far as a relaxer in your hair.. I am not quite sure what the obsession would be with your hair; however is it messy?

You should always look nice, presentable.. not for her, but for yourself. I have always found that if you feel presentable.. you tend to be happier. I am not a Polly-Anna that believes clothes are the answer.. trust me that is not it.. just look nice because YOU deserve it.

Yes, it is her job to help you irrespective of how you look.. but she will be less likely to be so critical if you beat her at her own game. She has no right to chastise you; however if you are not complying with whatever guidelines the 2 of you have agreed upon.. then you should NOT be criticized; however you do need to be held accountable. There is a HUGE difference between the 2 of these.

I wish you well!

Answer 3

She feels that you will feel better about yourself, if you take better care of your looks and thoughts of yourself. She is trying to help you get some pride in the way you look and feel about yourself. She is right that evidently your own ideas you've done by yourself haven't worked to well for you or you woundn't need a mental Health Case worker in the first place. Be dependent on her and others until you get well and are mentally able to make your own decision. What you've been doing by yourself just hasn't been working for you has it? Take her advise, temporarily until you get your self-esteem back, your pride in appearance back, and your healthy mind back. Good luck! The very idea that you want to make-up an EXCUSE-a LIE- to keep her from visiting you is a symptom in itself that you really are in need of her visit. If not her, get a new Case Worker assigned, but don't be your own boss now, you mentally can't afford it. Good luck!

Answer 4

If you want her to quit breathing down your neck, I would just follow her 'rules' and bob your head up and down and agree with everything she tells you.

As far as her telling you how to maintain her personal appearance, THAT is none of her d@mn business. But I would still do it when she's around to get her off your back.

Your CM has a socialist frame of mind...sounds like you're smarter than she is.

Answer 5

Can you contact her manager and ask to be reassigned? Sounds like you two just don't get along. Perhaps a new person would be good for the whole process.

Good luck.