Beofre intercourse i get really nervous and kind of like tense up.
I was wondering if there was anything i could think about or not think about when we're about to........you know?
Could i be afraid of intimacy?
2007-08-08 17:17:08 · 14 answers · asked by what? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe.. or maybe u need some excitement in ur sex life so you wont be so nervous. loosen up! try new things..experiment with you sexuality.. and it just might help u out!
2007-08-08 17:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get nervous before you become intimate it can be a number of things you can be insecure with yourself (body wise) or simply just not ready for what is about to happen. If its the first you'll get over it u just need to find the right guy that'll will make u feel special the second might be ur just not ready to be intimate with that person ? good luck
2007-08-09 00:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by ************** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This wouldnt happen if you were with the right person for the right reasons, I hope your not just having sex for the sake of fitting in . If you were with someone you loved and cared about and he felt the same way about you...this wouldnt be an issue, you would feel relaxed.
2007-08-09 00:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your oviously afraid of something. If you want to continue though then just think about how much you love the person (if you do). If you dont love him then why are you having sex with him?
2007-08-09 00:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are not ready to have sex. I don't think there is anything specifically that any one can tell you what to think of that will necessarily work for you. Try alcohol, that will calm your nerves and relax your muscles.
2007-08-09 00:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by krazyraider0516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you tense up is because you are not at ease with the parnter you have choosen ...... This should be something your looking forward to ... not terrified or scared of.
Have you choosen well ?
2007-08-09 00:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your as childesh as you would sound no offence been there,, its easy no sex for the next 3 yrs untill you understand this and love better,,,,, if you are grown up and mature,, then think dirty, figure out what makes you moist and excited, .. good luck.
2007-08-09 00:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by wgggn_babyjim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you could be afraid.
Make sure you are with someone you love and trust. Just relax.
2007-08-09 00:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny Flowers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more foreplay would help im sure ---- and intimacy is MUCH more than sex --- you can have intimacy without sex and sex without intimacy ---- enjoy
2007-08-09 00:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be afraid of intimacy. then again you may not...try some foreplay that'll losen both of you up(or it should!)....good luck.
2007-08-09 00:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋