guys push away way too much?

Question

I am in love with a guy that says he doesn't deserve to be happy. So he pushed me away. About 3 months ago he said I smothered him. Then he later told me he felt deep feelings for me and it scared him. Then now he has done the same thing. But this time he won't even talk to me. I have left him cards and letters but he will not call or anything.What can I do ? I am so in love with him, but he has broken my heart. And he has been dating a woman that he dated before me, but he told me he had feelings for her too but it went deeper wiyh me. So why is he doing this to me and himself?

Answer 1

F him, really. This isn't about him, its about you hunnie. Realize that love ISN'T enough. Ooo I know we can talk about some romantic stories but then again romance isn't reality. Ether way what matters about love is the HOW we use it. We all feel love and its SO gosh darn SELFISH when people assume they have more love for someone then anyone else does, espacially in your case were you apparently don't have much for youself. Realize that what your really feeling is how you make yourself feel with him, it isn't him, shoot he isn't doing anything for but string you along, but you being a big hearted person can see right past that to the hope of all sorts of possiblities, very romantic, very painful huh? Ether way its you he is doing it to you because he doesn't understand the nature of his heart, love, what he wants from life, his purpose with it, anymore then you. So he is just as lost, doing what he can to survive from one feeling to another from one day to anther, seem familar? Like maybe were doing the same thing? Also the relationship is broke, realize that there is no use loving someone who can't love themselves. That makes you love there worst enemy. I know it doesn't make sense but deep down thats the way this guy feels. You scare him, you feel him full of fear, and misunderstanding because he doesn't want to love himself. Shoot to love himself would mean most likly accepting alot of bad things he has done were with in his power and thats hard on some people. Also realize that you need to love you too, becasue I havn't even met you, I don't even know your name, and I know you deserve better then is string along, maybe you should to?