I think spanking works!?

Question

ADD my A@#!
If more kids got an old fashoned a#$ beating the world would be a better place instaed of putting a label on everything and giving kids an excuse to act like an a#$.

Now I'm no saying abuse is okay.

But I remember when a kid got in trouble in school a parent asked the kid what did you do. Now it's the teacher's fault or "oaww my kid has add it's not little johnny's fault.

People need to beat some sense into kids these days.

What are your opinions I want feedback.....

Answer 1

There is a fine line between a whoopin' and a beating!
I got a whoopin' every now and then, not much, but a couple of times, and I didn't turn out to be some nut job. My kids got spanked on the butt or a swat on the hand and they are long term US Military, successful, with families of their own. My daughter "sassed" me at 15 while she was doing the dishes, and I was behind her. My hand went around the front of her and popped her right in the mouth. I never got "sassed" again!....SO, lets watch "Maury Povich" or some other show where kids tell their parents to FK off, on national tv, and "we need a time out".....Time out my @$$!!!......
People are "suing" for everything these days so liability is an issue in schools....The schools get $$ per kid, so more kids, more $$...How do teachers handle 40kids per class?????
MEDICATION!!!! Keep them "Sedated" like little Zombies, and the school gets their money!!!!
Someone beat their child to death, so GOOD parents have to pay the price. There is a case where a woman swatted her kid in the store, not beat!!! and a lady went and followed her outside, got her tags and reported her to child welfare! What a friggen crock of sh!t!!!......How many kids are really "abused" that fall between the cracks that should be saved, that aren't because of stupid beoches like that lady!!!!
The world has gone @$$ backwards in so many ways. There is no respect.....When I was little, god forbid the teacher called your parents! God forbid your neighbor saw you do something wrong......Now, the kid has ADD, too much sugar, preservatives in food, no PE in school, don't talk in the cafeteria, on the bus, want to take Music out of schools......
need I really go on!!!

Answer 2

As long as you do it right, spanking can be a great tool. The problem is parents do things like the following:

(1) Spank when they are angry.
(2) Spank to cause pain, not to correct.
(3) Spank in public.

etc. If it's done right I think it can prevent a lot of problems, but the thing is, spanking is not supposed to instill fear in the child, or embarrass the child, and most of the time it does. This is unfortunately counter productive and ineffective, which is what non-spanking advocates say to defend non-spanking. "It's ineffective!" Of course it is, if you do it wrong, which probably 90% of parents do. It's ineffective to take a child's toy key and try to turn your car on with it - it just wasn't designed that way. If spanking is done correctly it is a wonderful tool.

Quick example: I know two couples who spank (more, but for this example): one does it right, and one does it wrong.

Couple A does it wrong. They break Rule #3, and spank their kid in public. This is extremely embarrassing and I have noticed this child listening to and respecting his parents less and less. He feels constantly ashamed of himself and believes he is a bad person.

Couple B does it right. They take their kid to a back room, lovingly explain what's going on, make sure the kid understands why they are being spanked, gives them a quick swat and then a big hug. I witnessed this once (well, the aftermath.) When the kid came back from the back room (after crying for a few minutes), she started playing and laughing with her brother and sisters and wrestling with her dad. This never would have happened with most spanked children. The incident was never brought up again - it was completely forgiven. These children are the most well behaved, mature, respectful, and truly child-like children I have ever met, and I've done day care for a decade.

My 2 cents. :)

Answer 3

I spank but it doesnt seem to do much. Maybe I spank over every little thing so it isnt efficient. My toddler is a different species though, he is into things faster than lightening, bites the dog, hits, etc. He has an appointment with his Ped. next week. Sometimes I think the parent has a lot to do with childrens behavior. Maybe my son wants more attention than I am able to give him...maybe? I dont know. But a spanking on the bottom once or twice is fine. I never spank while I am raging mad though. He gets sent to his room until I cool off. Older kids need to be grounded. Being grounded from the phone, tv, hanging out with friends is the worst punishment ever. Getting a spanking at that age is like "ok, ouch, can I go play outside now?"

Answer 4

I definitely think spanking is required in order for children to behave. I got spanked, and if I had done anything wrong, I KNEW there were gonna be repurcussions. Not just sitting in "time out" What a bunch of bullsh;t! Kids know now that there really are no punishments now. That's why they aren't afraid to do anything wrong. I was spanked and I don't go around killing kittens. What the hell is wrong with people???

Answer 5

I agree that spanking works. If it is used as a proper punishment tool. I give my kids a crack on the behind every now and than when they are really bad and than I also talk to them about why they got punished and what they did wrong. and you can bet your backside that they behave real well after that.(for the record my oldest is 10 and has only has 3 spankings in his life. my four year old has only had one.}

Answer 6

I'm not a bad parent at all, I love my kids entirely but they know that they need to respect their parents, even being how young they are. If you don't show them who's boss, when they get older they will be walking all over you. I know from experience. My mom would never touch us, she could yell but no one ever listened to her. As a teen I was a mess, talked back, didn't do anything and totally disrespected her. Although I now know it was wrong - I would never make the same mistake.

Answer 7

Limited spankings are acceptable in my book, however I don't think the problem is not enough spankings, but more so the fact that parents don't SUPERVISE their children. A child that is left to run free will act as such. It's not the children's fault they don't have guidance.

Answer 8

I got 3 spankings in my life. I earned every one of them. Parents are too permissive and are letting kids rule the house. That is why we are such a mess. I am with you 100%!

Answer 9

I think it works. We did not spank our son much but I did spank my daughter. We do not have much problems with her but he is always in trouble. He has an unbelievable "I am perfect" attitude. My hubby and I have different parenting styles. He was always in charge of our son and I was in charge of our daughter. He wishes now he had listened to me more in the past and whacked some more sense in our son's head when he was younger.

Answer 10

Spare the rod spoil the child....A good old fashion spanking is needed once in a while, yet too many people take it to far.