ya i know ppl always say LDR..dnt work.. && neither do i beleive it does. but me and this boy have been talking but he lives in NC & i live in MIA...we haven't seen eachother, but yet im in love..or in better terms have very vey deep feelings for him,more than i ever had for many of my exs.!!has any1..ever been in this situation?? or am i actaulli in LOVE or its just a phase & i'll get over it??
2007-08-08 16:27:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay well after reading my answers i would like to say hank-you for all of you who have answerd but also i would like to add that we are both teenagres..&& lyk meeting eachother in person is kinda hard, thats why we haven't met.But yes we do send emails, we txt constanltii, were VERY BIG on pic messaging.On myspace he's always the 1st to comment my pics & im always the 1st to comment his.So really its nothing we could do..just thought i would let you guys know!!
2007-08-09 14:15:14 · update #1
well, i think you are in love with that lucky guy.
distance is not the problem. i used to confuse about the same question. so i think maybe i can give you some help.
me and my bf are working on on long distance relationship, we live in different countries. so in a way, you two are luckier than us. you two are in the same country.you may have chance to meet each other. that's possible. jealous you guys!=P it's going to be our half year anniversary this month. so you can see that distance is not the problem if you really like or love each other.
um... you know, love is magic. nothing is impossible. have you told him your feeling? if not, tell him. i guess he will be happy to be your bf.
we have to face some hardship in LDR. but that's not a big problem. we can go over it. try to think: we will be together. then you will feel better. my bf told me that. when i missed him, I'm easy to cry. then i remember this sentence, everything become better.
REMEMBER: be patient, loyal, and trust your guy.
don't worry about the distance. just do want you want to do!
wish you luck!!!
help this can give you some help. ^_^
2007-08-08 16:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a phase. It is a normal situation that people get into. My husband and I, prior to getting married, have maintained a long distance relationship for 4 years. It takes an 8-hour bus ride to meet up in either of our locations. There are three important things to LDRs:
1. Constant Communication - Make sure you always communicate (email, phone, SMS, etc.) And if possible, try to meet up at least once a month. Never let a day pass without talking to each other.
2. Honesty - Since you don't see each other, you both have to be very honest about your feelings, about what you are doing, thinking about, etc.
3. Trust - Since you don't see each other, you have to trust your partner. You should not doubt him/her when he tells you something.
*Honesty and Trust should go hand-in-hand.
*If both of you are really serious about the relationship, then one of you has to give up your current location so that you both can live closer to each other. As for my situation, I tried hard to find a job near my husband's place. Then after dating for 3 more years, we got married. We are still happily in love right now. =)
2007-08-08 16:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by rhodamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those situations where you need to keep talking to him. You never know what could happen. My best friend is in an LDR right now, and he just proposed the other day. Don't let the things that people say discourage you from going after what you want. Tell this guy how you're feeling.
Carpe diem! And good luck girl.
2007-08-08 16:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Abby H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationship CAN work however both party MUST be willing to MAKE it work.... My best friend lived in MN and her boyfriend at that time lived in Ca... they dated for a long 6 years and then they couldnt take the distance no more and decided to get married... now they have been married for 7 years and have two beautiful baby boys. She tells me that long distance was so hard especially because they were teenager BUT they kept their trust in one another and she said that sometimes the distance test their love for one another but they both came through... go for it... good luck...
2007-08-08 16:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by molly_tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation. When my husband & I first met we lived in two different states. I was on a trip in his town and we met at this shop he was working at. A week later I took the iniative and called him then he called me two days later and things picked up from there. In two weeks I knew I was in love. We knew it was long distance and there would be some problems because of the distance but we made it work then got married seven months later.
2007-08-08 16:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by ginnrc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not in love i;ts just something to do to pass time with each other and you haven't seen him OK right now your on a low dating scale not to much interest you at the moment but his conversation and your feeling him the question is he feeling you? and why haven't the two of you tried to see each other by now?meet half way send a e-mail picture,camera phone picture or something this is crazy don't "YOU" think you'll get over it especially when he's not trying to see you for whatever reason or what your worth
2007-08-08 16:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by "juicey" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get me wrong but how can you say you love him if you havent see him yet.. Maybe your just emotional attach to him but not to the point of loving him...
but if you feel you love him, long distance relationship for me is quite difficult, unlesss you are very much sure that your just the only one he loves and he is faithful for you...
the best thing in having a relationship is the time you spend for each other. why dont you try to look for love that is always preent at your side.....
2007-08-08 16:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by ○♫mhytzhe○♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look i have never had good LDR because i was not as into him as you are to this guy LDR can work if you both want it bad enough maybe you even met you soul mate good luck
2007-08-08 16:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in a LDR. it's alot tuffer than it seems. the only reason i'd be careful is since you've ever met him and don't know for sure if his not some wack job. so try not to give out any personal info uless you for sure know he's the guy he LITERALLY says he is.
when you're in love, you know if you care about them, miss them when you're not with them, want to be with them forever, care about what happens to them, treat them right, and like things about them.
2007-08-08 16:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Avina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are hard enough without adding the distance to it. However it can work if you two totally trust each other.
2007-08-08 16:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Megan L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋