Do mormons really think it's ok that family members aren't able to attend mormon weddings?

Question

Just because they may not believe the same things?

Answer 1

It's a funky belief system but even those who "attend" a Mormon wedding in the temple are not permitted in the "marriage room" so from what I've heard, the whole thing is a little strange.

I married into a Mormon family and I still can't get straight answers....

I guess I choose not to care.

Answer 2

Some of the people who have answered this question definitely don't know what they're talking about.
In the Mormon faith, our temples are like heaven on earth. They are the most sacred places and only the very worthy may enter. It is meant for those who truly understand our religion, believe it and live it, and will not report to other nonmembers what they've seen or heard inside the temple.
In case you haven't noticed, our religion is often criticized and made fun of (the understatement of the century), so we try and keep the one thing that is the most sacred to us private so that it is not mocked & ridiculed. I hope that you can understand that.
During a Mormon wedding, everyone is in the room with the couple being married. The ceremony is very quick, so I don't know how that girl could have "fallen asleep". It is also a very sweet and personal ceremony.
If the married couple has friends and family members who weren't able to attend the ceremony, they can definitely have a ring ceremony afterwards in a church or at the reception site.
Most Mormons are ok with it, and that's the way it should be, in my opinion. My parents were okay with the fact that my dad's parents couldn't attend their wedding. It's just a matter of whether or not you know what's really important to you.

Answer 3

The only reason you couldn't attend is if it's in the temple.

If a couple wants to marry in the temple and they know that there will be hard feelings because of non-member family, they need to address those issues somehow long before the wedding. Whether it's to try to get those non-members to understand why a temple wedding is so important to us, or to put off the temple sealing for a year so everyone can see the wedding. Or something in between, like a ring ceremony or something.

Annie, this is something that many people don't consider, also, that many Mormons in good standing can't go to the temple either, and you know, they know what the temple is and it doesn't bother them a bit. I'm sure your DIL was not nearly as upset about not seeing her BF wedding as you are, or think she should be.

Answer 4

Take that up with the Lord, He is the one who has set forth the living standards those who attend must be living by...
Loving family members should be supportive...the wedding is about the bride and groom not who all gets to be there.
On the other hand, it would be hard to be the family who couldn't attend...no one on my father's side of the family could attend my wedding in the temple but I was OK with that and they seemed OK too. I am sure it would be hard but the families can still be included in a ring ceremony later after the wedding ceremony, I know several people who have done that...

By the way, anyone who becomes a member and is worthy can attend the temple, all are invited to enjoy in those blessings...

Answer 5

Most LdS weddings are followed by a *HUGE* wedding reception at a place where non-LdS well-wishers can attend. Some couples even hold the ring ceremony outside the temple.

Lilly: family members with current temple recommends can witness the actual ceremony in the Sealing Room. Those without recommends (includes non-LdS well-wishers) can occupy themselves in a waiting room.

Some of the temple weddings I've attended, there so many people in the Sealing Room we had to stand!

Answer 6

Let me give you a relevant analogy that steps outside of religion:

I'm about to have my first baby, and I've chosen to deliver at a hospital that has a very strict rule that only two visitors are allowed in the delivery room. One person will be my husband, the other will be my doula (important helper/coach).

That means that no one else in my family gets to be there, I know my sisters, my mom, my Mother-in-law would all love to be there - but they can't. They can, and will, hang out in the waiting room, and participate in the "bringing baby home" time.

Now lucky for me, the women in my family are very understanding, they know this will be an important, special day for me, and fully respect my desire to have it done the way I want. I know lots of women who aren't so lucky, who are getting screamed at by the mother-in-laws and friends for not allowing them in the delivery room.

So - long story short, who do you think is being selfish? The women who desire their own special and important day to be the way they want it? Or the family and friends who are mad at them for not being able to participate?

Answer 7

Dances with Poultry...

You my dear, are IGNORANT!

I myself am LDS, and I am not as you say.. "White and delightsome." I am Hispanic, and am proud of my heritage, BUT I'm even prouder of my faith.

The many times I have been in the temple (I've been going since I was 15-16), I have never once felt anything other than the spirit of God. It truly is a sacred place.

I am sorry that simple-minded people such as yourselves cannot grasp that, BUT those of us who have experienced it... understand it.

Just like in ANY religion, there will always be a custom or tradition that one does not understand or agree with, and just like with any question pertaining to ANY religion, there will always be the person who makes themselves look like an @$$ -- and YOU my dear are just that!

Toodles! ;o)

Answer 8

Aloha Spirit has a great answer and mine was going to be a lot like his.

In Matthew, Christ talks about the division that his gospel will bring in matters such as these:

"Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.
For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. "

Answer 9

I also have wondered the same thing..... My dau-n-law who IS Mormon could not attend her best friends wedding there in Utah at what I guess is the, main temple ?? I always wondered why...... did not ask her, because did not want to hurt her feelings....... I think it was wrong, but........ *sigh*............. God bless

Answer 10

If Mormons accept all the unbiblical teachings of Mormonism why wouldn't they accept something like wedding rules? It's truly sad that they've been deceived so badly. :(