Well, not really, but he acts like it.
He'll stalk me all day. Like I can't even go to the bathroom without him being there. Its kind of creepy actually. And the thing is he techinally doesn't live with me, but you might as well say he does considering he never goes home. And we've only been dating for 3 weeks.
I'm constantly telling him "hey babe, i need my space" but that makes him paranoid, and he thinks I'm seeing someone else which i am most certaintly not. He even gets suspicious when I put on makeup.
I'm surprised he's not standing over my bed when i wake up in the mornings glaring at me, holding a pillow that says "home sweet home" on it. Not kidding.
What do i say or do to make him stop this?
2007-08-08 16:15:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to break up with him. Probably will involve a protective order, but you need to end it with this guy.
2007-08-08 16:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sheila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl.i was involved with a girl like that.we were together for about a month.she was at my job everyday.she thought i was dateing my boss.hell i didnt have time to do anything.she called my boss and told her to leave me alone.i had to explain my self.when we went to dinner she thought i like the waitress.i was ? all the time and if i went to see my son she showed up,i was followed all the time.so my point is he wont change,i had to have her escorted away by the police one day from the mall.i was shopping with my son.you need to break the ties as soon as you can.no man or women should act the way those two do.everyone needs space in a relationship.and trust hell 3 weeks he dont even no you.he has no reason not to trust you.that should tell you something.i hope you make the right choice.good luck.
2007-08-08 16:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by bud8297 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to break the news to you, but nothing you can ever say or do will change him. If fact, he probably will get worse.
My advice is:
#1.Do NOT get pregnant.
#2. Dump him.
#3. Cal the police if he keeps stalking you.
#4. Do NOT get pregnant.
#5. Accept the fact sooner rather than later that the only person in your life that you will ever be able to change and/or control is yourself.
#6. And finally, do NOT get pregnant with this psycho's child.
#7. Do not be afraid to use the spell check.
#8. Realize that he is only going to get worse.
2007-08-08 16:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a personality disorder since he doesn't understand boundaries. Maybe borderline personality disorder (look it up on the web).
In any case his behavior is not going to change based on what you've said without serious therapy, and as his girlfriend you can't be his therapist. Make him leave, change the locks, and you'll probably need to block his # or change yours. You may need a restraining order. This has some potential to be a dangerous situation so please look after yourself and don't be afraid to use the legal system or call the police if you need to.
2007-08-08 16:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by soundandfury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices: correct it now or face it when it gets REALLY ugly later.
He is insecure and a very possessive male that can become unstable when they feel they didnt get what they were obsessing about.
Be warned. He isnt 100% stable and its your actions now that will either protect your well being after you change the locks or...take full responsibility for the warning signs that you chose to ignore.
Be pro-active.
2007-08-08 16:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And he's your BOYFRIEND?!! Are you nuts? Are you really that pathetically desperate for a guy? Or haven't you figured that when this happens, you tell him to take a hike? You rode the short bus to school, didn't you? Maybe you still do. Sounds like both of you do.
2007-08-08 16:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave. Be prepared to call the police and make him leave. He sounds like someone who has some mental problems so be careful. I know you may think I am being silly, but I am serious.
2007-08-08 16:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn girl..he must be sprung on you.... thats what my friend is going thru right now... check it out ..u guys have only beeen together 3weeks and already acting like a psyco...my firend has been with her guy for 1 year, and has acutally told her, if ur not with me...u belong to nobody, now thats ****** scary, he might be obsessed with you, talk to him ,if he dont change, start dropping him lillte by litltle but stay away, that **** is drama in ur life, and its going to get worst !
good luck
2007-08-08 16:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting too clingy, the best thing to do right here is to dump him. You gave him his chance when you told him to back off but since he didn't listen it's his fault. But because he's so obsessed with you, i recommend moving so he doesn't follow you for revenge for dumping him.
2007-08-08 16:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say leave me alone ,psycho. Then run, don't walk, to the police station to take out a restraining order. Creepy.
2007-08-08 16:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by Unknown 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋