When I was 18 years old 4 men and I broke into an old acquaintances house and held him and his two male roommates at gun point while we loaded most of their belongings into their vehicals. I was giving 10 years shock probation for the exchange of my testimony. Shock probation is an intense probation in which you are required to serve 6 months in prison. I was relesed from prison and imediately began a 10 probation sentence. I did fine until I turned 21 and started doing what 21 yearolds do. My probation was revoked and I was then given a 6 year sentence. While in prison I started taking college courses and recived an associates degree in a year and a half with a G.P.A. of 3.96. I was released March 15 2007 and was accepted to the University of Texas shortly after. Since then I have meet some great women and I am comntemplating a relationship with one of them. I have lied about my past. I made up a story on my life for the last 3 years and 9 months because I was ashamed of my past.
2007-08-08 15:58:23 · 8 answers · asked by no idea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I now see this was a mistake and I should have been honest. I will tell her the truth and in doing so I risk hurting her and losing her. So my question is how do I tell her the truth? And If it doesn't work out when should I tell my next potential partner? Is this information I should offer at a first date or should I just wait until a question pops up about my past and be honest about it?
2007-08-08 16:01:45 · update #1
1st of all.... No one is perfect... remember that. Everyone makes mistakes. Don't continue to lie about your past... we all live and learn... you have served your time for the crime you committed... don't keep sentencing yourself by telling lies about your past. So what, you have been to prison. A lot of great men and women have been there and some are still there. It doesn't matter that you have been... what matters, is how you live your life after you are giving another chance to alter your situation for the better. If you are pursuing someone special... be honest and open with her... if she fails to respond positive in your favor... then fine, she wasn't for you... move on. Life doesn't end there. Don't live your life ashamed of your past... your past is probably what makes you an even greater person today. So, please allow yourself to be free now... live and be happy about the man that you have become today. God forgives 99 times a day... and he is never ashamed of any of us... think about that. Good Luck.
2007-08-08 16:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a slightly difficult problem since it involves societal stigma, bias,fear, and lack of tolerance and forgiveness.They can be real mean and nasty.Having said that, I will suggest the following:1When the relationship has been ongoing for sometime about 1 year, and you both share the same feelings for each other2)When you know that you can trust her with your very personal information3)When she will not betray your confidence even if she decides to no longer be with you(which can happen).4)If she believes in second chances and that people can make mistakes and then change their lives for the better.When you get to this plateau, then it would be time for you to have a talk with the lady.I hope she gives you a second chance based on whom you are today and not the rascal you were when at a young age. Good luck.
2007-08-08 23:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you are interested in any woman you should tell that women you were in prison because if you don't and she finds out later on that you were in prison from someone else it will crush her heart and if your feelings happen to be the same as hers you will be heart broken as well. it is a risk that you should take telling her the truth, it's better for her to hear it from you than someone else.
good luck.
2007-08-08 23:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by stinger_4202 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds dumb but i actually would find that sexy.
Anyway.. yeah if questions come up about your past just be honest, if asked why you lied before just say you were asshamed.
If theres no honesty, theres no relationship
GdLuck 2 You
2007-08-08 23:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by raggy91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her as early on as possible.
prolonging the process will only make it worse, girls hate being lied to. you need to tell her now so she can decide whether we wants to be with you. if she knows the truth you know she loves you regardless of what you did. you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are, the past is the past, as long as you learnt from it, its ok.
godo luck =o)
2007-08-08 23:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you haven't' been honest with this lady. So don't be surprise if she is shocked and end the relationship. But if its breaks up you have learned a hard lesson.
2007-08-08 23:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i would make sure i really know the person really well and really like her and just say i lied and im sorry but i need to tell u this ________ and say ur ashamed hoped this helped Gl
2007-08-08 23:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by golfcart123456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asap!!!! if they reALLY LIKE you and if you're meant to be together i think u should hurry and tell them. Be subtle about it. Id DOESNT rele sound bad!
2007-08-08 23:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by NevrAgain93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋