I haven't been able to see my girlfriend in almost three weeks because of issues she's been having with her family. Her dad has been on some long business trips and her mom was just in a bad accident. We are both sophmores in HS and 15. I've been calling her almost every other night, is this enough or is this too little and risking our relationship?
2007-08-08 15:36:49 · 12 answers · asked by triath91 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a hard time for her. u should be there and help her with anything she needs. do anything that makes her feel better.just calling wont help much. visit her quite often.now she has to bear all the household chores and has to keep up with school
2007-08-08 16:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by ^!$#~U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer really depends on everything else that you didn't mention. One thing I noticed was that the only thing you said and asked was in terms of YOU, not her. She is the one having hard time and you asked, am I risking our relationship. (ie. am I losing her)
What about her? A good thing to do would be to show her that you care about her. Did you ever think of putting you in her place and think, she might need your help or at least emotional support? If you did, you need to show it.
Call her and say:
"I know you have been having problems... your father is away and your mother had an accident. Is there anything I can help you with?"
Then see what she says. She will appreciate your thought and then she might say she just need to deal with this herself or suggest something to you. Then do exactly that.
The worst thing you can do right now is to put YOUR relationship with her in front of everything. She has enough to deal with. Don't add anymore. Try helping her.
2007-08-08 22:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think thats enough. You should spend some time with her and let her know that you love her. Also let her know that you'll be there for her, and she can come to you when shes feeling down. When you call always to ask how her day was and how shes doing. If yall are both religious you can pray together for her mom. Just make sure to not constantly remind her about the accident,etc. Take here somewhere fun. Good luck with your relationship. and just a FYI, I will pray for her mom that if it is God's will to bless her and let her make a full recovery. Take care buddy
2007-08-08 22:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the ladies don't like to be bug every night. It is a good idea to call and show you concern for your girlfriend's family. But its better to mail her instead of calling because what if she needed her space or other accident has happen. You can mail her as much as you like. Sometimes its better to go over there and comfort her, it will brighten her day.
Your Bud Justin,
2007-08-08 22:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Justinfire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm let's see, first, a relationship is compromise, if you love your girlfriend, you know that her family is important to her and although it's hard, you have to understand that her family needs her right now. But I would talk to her and tell her how I felt, in fact, I know you want to see her, so offer to come over and help out, that way, you can at least see her. It's not the answer your looking for I'm sure, and I'm sure it's hard being away from a love one, especially when they have other things going on in their life that doesn't necessary involve you, but I wouldn't give up, I would find ways to involve me in her situation so she would know that I'm there for her.
2007-08-08 22:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lene B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sounds pretty good ........ you should stop by there once in a while though just so she can have some company and help her out with her mom. But no i dont think you are risking your relationship. I hope her mom gets better =)
2007-08-08 22:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound bad, unless she tells you she wants to be called less or more. You can also pick up hints on how much you are calling by looking at her behavior. Does she call you more often than you call her? Do she almost never call you?
2007-08-08 22:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space. Ensure that she knows that she can call on you whenever she needs you but don't come on too strong. She has a lot going on and just needs to be reassured that you will be there for her.
2007-08-08 22:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good for you to call her. See hows shes doing and the family. It's alright to do that.
2007-08-08 22:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by BrOwN eYe GiRl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its enough. if you feel like you guys are still on the same page then yes.
2007-08-08 22:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by mariela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋