To R&S people?

Question

While many R&S poeple are rude about beliefs and the points they want to get across, there are many people say things in a very effective way, but don't insult or sound too outspoken.

I'm asking this is R&S because of the contrast between the respectful people (who still have creative and occasionally slightly answers) to the downright rude, offensive and stupid ones.
How do you compose yourself and not write the first insane(or rude) thing that comes into your head if something bothers you?

Answer 1

At first when I came on here about eleven months ago, there was pornographic Ave's and all kinds of blatantly insulting questions, not really questions but kinda out and out threats, like -- I'LL TAKE OVER YOUR WHORE DOM YOU WHORE, and whatnot. At first I was incensed and would jot down the rudest thing I could say, getting right into the spirit of it all. So I got a violation within the first 24 hours I was on here. Good going Lukus!
I take a lot longer to answer a question now. Sometimes I write out a two paragraph answer, then read it over, then hold down Backspace til I've erased everything I've just typed.

Answer 2

First, the cool and composed ones generally look for questions and comments that sound like plausible curiousity, rather than cheap baiting of a potential group of protagonists. That means they can eliminate many questions.

Second, they look for an "angle" or "method" of approaching the issue or framing a response. Perhaps it is a quote they remember, a school of thought they can "google" or pull off their library shelf.

Third, if they are well bred and educated--and I do not mean rich folks with impressive diplomas, I include all people who were raised by reasoning and respectful mentor--they will understand that the rule of logic do not start with argumentum ad hominum (attacking the person, rather than the evidence or the logic). Thus, the will seek commonly accepted "facts" or "stories" to reason with by analogy. They assume that the questioner shares with them some common values and experiences, and they mention these before moving on to a fact or opionion that may not have been considered but may still be attractive and persuasive.

Fourth, they try to play down their own ego and self-righteousness. I would call it keeping one's powder dry, but others might call it cool, trenchant, presentation from a seemingly impartial and analytical mind. In fact, unless we are totally ignorant, we are already prejudiced in some way.

As comedian Dennis Miller might say, "Of course, that's just one man's opionion; I could be wrong."

Answer 3

You know what? You are absolutely observant. While there are those who do take into consideration what they answer here on R&S others are simply demeaning or rude. I can understand some not having the same view point but having some kind of tact in bringing your point across is sorely abundantly lacking here.
I just really am thankful to the many who contribute to this forum in a constructive manner that is a true testimony to what they believe and bring it across in a way that will actually make others, even though they agree or not say that it was at least a worthy contribution.

Answer 4

I don't know if I qualify as respectful, but if I do, it's because I make a *lot* of use of the Delete function on my computer before posting. I may vent my spleen in the first draft, but usually I manage to let my better nature take over before I hit the Submit button.

I'm a Christian, and I know that a rude or really sarcastic answer is not what God would want me to post. Sometimes I foul up, but then I try to do better the next time.

Answer 5

My approach in all of the Y!A forums is pretty much the same. I look through the questions for something that either piques my interest or stimulates a response; I'm very selective. I then take a little time to think about the question. In addition to responding to the question itself, I sometimes address issues that are "written between the lines." When possible, I also try to give my readers a reason to smile.

When responding to rudeness or deliberate provocation, I try to look past those to the actual question, which I answer without responding in kind. Usually.

Answer 6

I often do type the first thing that pops into my head..and I type faster than I think. I keep in mind a few rules at all times.

#1. While not necessarily respecting all beliefs or convictions,I have a respect for all human beings
#2. Even when I am engaged in funny mode,I am careful to not dishonor Jesus Christ,by involving myself with inconvenient joking.(hopefully,I have been sucsessful)
#3. I try at least, to stick to the issues (on questions of a serious nature)
#4. I prayerfully never come off as being arrogant,rude or condemning of others..
#5. Though I have strong convictions in my Christian faith,I attempt to share those beliefs in love.
#6. Lastly,I use wisdom when responding to serious questions..as some are not ready to hear what I have to say...
We are dealing with individuals from all walks of life who all have a story and who are at differing stages in life...It takes discernment to know when to speak,what to speak and the manner in which you present your case.

Answer 7

It really depends on the spirit in which the question was asked. Sometimes it may hit me wrong but it's not how they meant it to sound. If it was meant to be nasty, then I usually stop for a moment to think about whether my answer will make me feel guilty. There have been times I've skipped the question and come back later to keep from being just totally rude.

Answer 8

I am neither rude nor insane by nature (although sometimes my family may disagree on the insanity thing - especially when it's 98 degrees outside)
I am, however, human and therefore prone to thoughtlessness from time to time.
I have a very healthy and sometimes "worldly" sense of humour, and that's the hardest. Because some questions just DEMAND a humorous and worldly answer to things.
*sigh*
alas, I usually end up skipping over those questions, because, I think about the kind of witness I desire to be for God, and like Georgia,I think about the people I care about, and I just won't do it.
As for rude or disturbing or melicious questions, there's no point in answering them. They are only looking to provoke and usually won't even read your answer, let alone give credit for it.


blessings :)

Answer 9

Depends if i'm on here out of boredom or because of insomnia....but typically i write everything down, then go back and try to make it make sense. Never intend to be rude, but sometimes when i reread something i wrote...i realize it can be taken multiple ways....try to find a better word.......but i'm not much a writer either...i'm more of a math person, i'd more happily write a set of equations....can never have more than one meaning to those.

I think its tough though.....
respectfully trying to disagree with someone
or
respectfully thinking someone is full of sh*t

second one there sounds harsh....but aren't they the same thing? You should not have a different reaction to each of those sentences...but people do....and not everything strikes people the same way as others

Answer 10

Sometimes I go with the rude thing ...

To quote the character Vera Donovan In the book Dolores Claiborne by Stephen King...

Vera Donovan: Sometimes you have to be a high-riding bit** to survive. Sometimes being a bit** is all a woman has to hold onto.

Sometimes the rude thing is the only thing that can get your point across.. There is no rule that says we all have to be composed all the time..