is my guy too big for me?

Question

me and my guy had sex for the first time a few nights ago, and besides some of the normal awkward things, i noticed something. he is big. ya. it was painful for the first little while it took him it get it in, but after that it was basically fine. i am worried that sex with this guy is going to be leaving me that sore and stretched from now on. is he just too big for me or is this just a first time thing and things will get better? he is not unearthly big, just big enough to give me some discomfort.

Answer 1

Because its your first time, practically any guy would be too big for you. So you will probably be sore no matter what. Try to space out how often you have sex. Also, use lube if you don't get wet enough for him to be moving around inside you. Also, try doggy-style. You can open up wider that so that it doesn't create as much discomfort.

Answer 2

It won't stretch you out for life, don't worry!! Two suggestions: a personal lubricant...the ones that warm up are really nice. They're a bit spendy but a regular KY sort of thing around your entrance and part way down his shaft will help, especially if he inches it in slowly. Since it ends up fine once he's and going that should help. (Are you turned on enough to lubricate?)
Also do what is called "Kegel exercises". If you have not heard of them they are the pelvic floor muscles that you would use if you really REALLY had to pee but weren't in a good spot to and had to hold it. Use those muscles for like a count of ten (it's not easy at first) for as many times as you can and increase to as many times as you can. This will keep your vaginal muscles firm and pliant and will add to your pleasure as well especially if you do it during sex. I assure you he won't mind a bit either! It will help you for life if you continue with the exercise and will become second nature. No one can see you doing them either.

Answer 3

You are just under too much stress and are clenching up. I knew a girl like that, it has tight to the point it was painful (considering she HAD to have the condom). But you don't realize you are doing it so it will be hard to relax... Make sure you want to do it, and make sure you are comfortable. If he really likes you he'll make you comfortable and understand. But as for being too big don't give him that much credit. Besides I know of a couple sites you can go to see just how far a woman can "adjust" so it has nothing to do with him. You just need to find out how to open up to him.

Answer 4

If you were a virgin then the discomfort is normal. After several contacts you should be able to enjoy the act. You can also do a certain position so the pain is lesser if he is really big for you. Most OB-GYNE will tell you that being on top (you) and sideways would be best.

Answer 5

First of all if this was your first time, how would you know if he is really big or just small? You really wouldnt. It was your first time, you are going to be tight and unless he learns to loosen you up, iyou will feel pressure everytime until you get more wet. No you wont get all stretched out, you will only expand during sex and then it goes back to normal

Answer 6

Since i do not know how old you are i can only generalize.
If you are under 18 then your body is not developed enough to handle him
if however you are over 18 then it is because you have not done this before and it will take many times to get used to sex. the mature female vagina is elastic and can accommodate any size, unless they are ungodly large. like 12 and up.

Answer 7

No it wont always be like that.

Even a regular guy can make you uncomfortable if its been a long while since you've had sex.

Things will feel better eventually.

Answer 8

Call the Sex show with Sue Joehanson.....lol....that might just be Too much info for everyone

Answer 9

1) How big is he?

2) What about lubircation?

Answer 10

there are probably three guys on earth with d*cks big enough to leave you sore and stretched. you probably just weren't lubricated enough. relax, and have some foreplay.