I took my 16 yr old child to a psychologist who gestimated her maturity at about 12 yrs old. She is not retarded or autistic. He told me she was highly manipulative and to protect myself from it.
A judge ordered custody to her dad when she was 10 and he had her for 5 yrs after she told a big fat lie. I ended up with a crooked attorney who just wanted $$ and was not willing to help me in any way. Her older brother stayed with me.
She just quit her job at Walmart after having a fling with the manager. Not allowed. They fired him.
She wrote his and her name all over the walls in the bathroom of the walmart store along with hearts and love things.
She is almost 20 yrs old and has no job or money and she thinks this guy are going to live on love. He clearly does not know what she did. She has been staying every second of every day with him and I imagine he would like for her to get a plan.
I am at a loss as to what to do. I dont want her back home. What do I say or do?
2007-08-08 14:13:53 · 4 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is so immature on her part to be putting her name on the walls in the Walmart bathroom. I am so aggrivated at her. I cannot believe at almost 20 yrs old she felt compelled to slap her name all over the bathroom walls along with the manager. That is so immature and inconsiderate.
We shop at this store all of the time and my son still works there.
2007-08-08 14:28:13 · update #1
At some point she must live with her own decisions. Assuming you have done all you could then tell her you love her but cannot decide here life.
2007-08-08 14:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What you need to do is give her no option. Take her there's nothing else to it. Everyone isn't to their age maturity anymore really. There are still 18 year olds who go to Chuckie Cheese or play in McDonald's playgrounds but you need to give her a plan or tell her the outcomes.
Or you could try to get her a job. a job is a job no matter what. Even if its at the local gas station it will teach her that it is the only way to earn money.
Im sorry
2007-08-08 14:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you love your daughter very much and only want the best for her, so maybe it's time to show a little bit of tough love. We learn through experience, so maybe it's best to just let her get through this alone for now, let her deal with consequences of her actions (or lack of), and when you feel she HAS learned something, see if she's ready to "start over" and listen to reasonable advice.
I don't know your situation fully or the specifics of what's going on, but I hope you are able to reach her and that she'll soon be able to grow up and be more responsible. Good luck!
2007-08-08 14:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by rjs6281 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult and the problem is hers. There is nothing you can do until and if she hits absolute rock bottom and maybe not even then.
2007-08-08 14:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋