I don't know if there's a name for it (i'm sure there is)
I guess i'm asking more for guys - if you felt that this girl was the most beautiful girl inside and out and she COULD BE the one and you felt that due to BIG changes in your adult life, being with her isn't the right time, would you let her go?
or if you felt like you weren't good enough for her and you don't want her to wait for something to happen, would you let her go?
let her go to the point that if another man makes her happy, you'd rather see that than disappoint her in having her wait for you...
people say it's true love, when you are not selfish of the other person and all you care about is THEIR happiness, even if it doesn't seem like it
What kind of love is this? and if you really loved her, would you let her go?
2007-08-08 12:46:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. It's called "altruistic love"....the best example I ever saw was on "Family Matters" on ABC...remember Steve Urkle? How he love Laura so much? How it didn't matter if she dated every guy in their high school, he only wanted HER happiness? How he tried to change himself into "Steffan" to make her love him? Well, in the end, Steve wound up with Laura (the woman of his heart), but even if he hadn't, he would have had it in his heart to be happy for her, because HER happiness was epitome to him. It sounds trite and it sounds fake, but there really *are* people like that in this world. I know. My mother is one. As is my sister.
2007-08-08 12:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that love at it truest form is selfish. That person makes you happy in all ways. So, selfishly you want that person with you all of the time.
If someone says they want you to be happy and it might not be with them. They are saying they are not ready to be the person that can make you happy. Because, you will always fight for what you want.
I know myself and even if a relationship was good I knew I could not make her happy ( at that time in my life ). I am married now I need wife in my life ( that's selfish ). I well do what it take to make her happy and fight for this relationship.
When I decided to get married. I thought " i don't know if I can make her happy, but I will try." " I need her I my life".
2007-08-08 13:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Kain j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years ago i probally would of said. If you love her let her go. Today im not so sure about that because if you let her go and she doesnt come back (or doesnt realise she is sopposed to) you are left with nothing. I mean yes you want them to be happy, even if being happy means not being with you.
You cant expect the chicks to not go off with another guy in the meantime, thats just unreasonable
2007-08-08 12:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called unattached love. I'm 37 and never married and no kids. I've let a lot of girls go because I was more concerned about them than what I get out of life. It's not easy, and most people are just not able to handle it. I know I am an exception.
2007-08-08 12:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not any such ingredient as a non-egocentric action. although, i think of there are distinctive stages of selfishness. for sure, somebody that purely values materal possessions and is keen to do despite it takes to attain those issues (no count who they injury or what problems they reason for human beings, animals, or our surroundings) is a extra egocentric being than guy or woman who has little or no yet spends all their loose time volunteering to despite motives desire them (whether they do get the gratification that they helped somebody; that "exhilaration/advantageous sensation"). As human beings, we would desire to sense like we are doing something precious, something that advantages others. it somewhat is like feeling a desire in a manner, with the aid of fact without that, we sense empty. And we see very own sacrifice as something noble.
2016-10-09 15:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this kind of love exists. Love is based on putting another person before you. However, most people will fight for what they believe to be a good relationship, especially that kind of love. Why would the other person be better for someone? Especially if two feel that kind of love?
2007-08-08 12:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Larryboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe love has to have some elements of selfishness. b/c otherwise you are not doing what you want to do, you are just doing what the other person wants and this is not a healthy relationship. I am not saying that people should be selfish, but it seems like he should WANT to be with you because thats what HE wants.
2007-08-08 12:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Hobbes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only true and unselfish love there is is the love of a mother for her children. All other love involves restrictions and stipulations: certain looks and behaviors are expected or you cannot be loved....
2007-08-08 12:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be called "unconditional love", difficult because almost all love is conditional. The only love I can think of the least conditional is the love of parent for child.
2007-08-08 12:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Echo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke a lot of hearts and boy do I regret it now but hay after ruining things guess its my own fault
2007-08-08 12:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋