I'm getting married in January. I can't decide who to pick as my maid of honor I have a wonderful bestfriend that I have been great friends with for over 5 years I also have 2 younger sisters that I am very close to that I tell everything too. Once all 3 of them found out that i was getting married they all laid claim to the Maid of Honor title. This is my second wedding so i'm not wanting to have it big I only want one attendant but i dont know who to choose and I also dont want to hurt the other 2s feelings. If anyone has any suggestions Please Please Please Help!!!!
2007-08-08 12:37:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My husband 2 be only has one guy that can stand up for him he is new to town and all his friends are far away and will not be able to make it to the wedding so the problem with all 3 being my attendants is i dont have enough men to cover them all.
2007-08-08 12:55:00 · update #1
Get them all involved in some way. That's the best advice I have. Even if you really only want one attendant (though whats wrong with having 3 if they are all that important to you).
Let them share the responsibilities.
Good luck!
2007-08-08 12:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if your only problem is that you don't have the matching number of men.. don't let that be a problem. Who says the sides have to be even. Yes that is probably more traditional, but is not a steadfast rule. Remember it is your wedding and you make the rules. IF you want all three of them in the wedding and to be co-maids of honor .. why the heck not.
For the ceremony the three girls can walk down together or they just draw straws for order or do it by height something arbitrary. Don't stress about it. If you must be traditional and only want one attendant pick your friend.. because you have two sisters and picking one over the other will never work out well. My first choice is just let them all be in the wedding if they all love you that much and vica versa.
2007-08-08 13:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jade645 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since all 3 are important to you I say have all three be either your maids of honor or your bridesmaids. Unfortunatly there is no way to pick one without hurting the others feelings. So you need to decide what is more important, having a small wedding party or not hurting anyones feelings.
Sorry I don't think there is any easy answer for this situation, I hope it works out. Good luck!
2007-08-08 12:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 8, count 'em, 8 bridesmaids and my husband only had three guys standing up for him. I have a bunch of sisters, so they walked down the aisle together. It worked out just fine. You could have your sisters walk together with your friend as the maid of honor. I think your sisters will feel slighted if they aren't invited to do something for you, and that doesn't necessarily include the minor roles.
2007-08-08 14:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately this decision comes down to who you want to stand by your side on this very special day. You obviously have a close connection with all three Ladies and that in itself is lovely and needs to be embraced. Regardless of the final choice, have all three women involved in the wedding day celebrations, delegate responsibilities on different levels and may you all have much fun!
I know you are very concerned about bruising some egos and hurting feelings. This is understandable but these three are supporting YOU, this is your day and that of your groom-to-be and so whatever the outcome, they need to be respectful of your decision, be happy with the choice and be by your side in some way or another.
2007-08-08 12:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with the girlfriend, that way you dont have to choose between the 2 sisters. That is a recipie for disaster.
You dont want a family feud on your hands.
You are going to hurt someone here, but it cant be helped.
Find something nice for the sisters to do. Explain to them that you could only have one and couldnt choose which. With one friend it was easy to pick her.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 14:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a MATRON of honor, and if she had to be a maid, then she could have thought approximately getting married first LoL. I hate to sound mean or brash, yet once you like to positioned on the classes that she's the matron, do it. it incredibly is optimal. If she had a toddler could she have a subject being called a mom? She's married, that makes her a matron. I easily have my sister who's my maid of honor, and my pal who's married, who's my matron of honor. they have not got a subject with it... I continually thought matron sounded eye-catching and powerful...
2016-10-01 22:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bridal party doesn't have to match up exactly. Have your best friend walk down the aisle alone and have his best man escort your sisters down the aisle at the same time. If you really don't want to exclude anyone that would be the easiest thing to do.
2007-08-08 14:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to have no attendants at all on either side. Get your husband's friend to sign the certificate. There is no rule that says you have to have attendants and since you can't pick just one, don't have any.
2007-08-08 13:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have all three be your bridesmaids...have them walk down the aisle by themselves.. the bridal party DOES NOT have to be even...at the reception, just have you and your husband be announced in.
2007-08-08 14:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋