I've been trapped in the house for days since I don't have a car or license and my mom works long hours so she just comes home and crashes my aunt is staying with us and she goes with my mom to work so I'm stuck here all day with my brother and cousins... I can't go anywhere with friends because...for some strange reason... my mom doesn't want me going out when she's not home... but my brother doesn't even ask and he goes out... so anyways the other day I fell asleep after being trapped in the house for 2 days straight for about 3 hours because I was bored out of my mind... when I wake up my mom and aunt are home... I walk past my aunt towards the bathroom and she says something like "nice" sarcastically I can't quite remember but it was something really bitchy. Then my cousins are all being jerks about it and saying stuff... now today my mom made it a specific rule I'm not allowed to fall asleep until 10... which is ridiculous and pointless since I usually go to bed around 11 anyways
2007-08-08 12:24:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok so it doesn't seem that bad written down but believe me they're all being jerks... but why because I didn't do anything to them except I got into a little argument with my mom the other day but we got over that... there's just some bad energy going around and apparantly my brother called me a ***** behind my back for reasons I've yet to find out... why is my family such asses and how many times do I have to fall downstairs to get emancipated(that last one was a joke btw)
2007-08-08 12:27:11 · update #1
They are probably mad because you are hogging the computer.... Or they are jealous of how beautiful and talented you are. They want to be you so they are angry all the time.... Yes I like that answer better.
2007-08-08 12:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by meedebi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to bring this to her attention. You have to sit down and negotiate as if you were equals. Say something like I am X years old, i have done nothing wrong so why am i stuck here in isolation. Then rattle off some effects of being socially isolated. The most important thing here is dont do it angry, she will just disregard it as you blowing off steam or worse get angry back.
You are going to need to have some valid points to counter with, and if you can get to the bottom of her motivation for having you stuck in the house unable to sleep till 10. If what i suspect is that she wants you to get along with the cousins then meet her half way. Say you'll make a better effort to get along with them on the tradeoff that i get to go out for x&y.
Make it fair, drive a hard bargain but still make it something that she will go for. I think any reasonable mother will understand (she may not seem reasonable but often they have some reason)
2007-08-08 19:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree re: call a family meeting: but speak respectful and calmly. Do not call people names.
Get a hobby. Find something to do that makes you happy and productive besides TV and computer. Ask your Mom to take you to Michael's to get some ideas. Take some money with you , to spend.
Ask your Mom or Dad if there are jobs you can earn money for. I'm sure there are jobs that they hate: that they would be happy to pay you to do on a daily or weekly basis. Ask them. Initially they might yell at you about "not helping", but insist you mean to help....don't back down.
Ask yourself if you are treating everyone else, like you want to be treated (Golden rule). If not, no matter how hard it is: start there. Make it a goal to treat everyone like you wish to be treated BEFORE they treat you that way....it will turn that negative energy into positive vibes!!! Just watch it!
Distance yourself. Go to your room. Paint, sing, play music, read, call people....get away from the main common area of your fmaily....create your own positives vibes separate from them!
2007-08-08 20:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by watermflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure why but youre really over reacting..get over it and FIND something to do. simple.
suggestions:
-club penguin.com
-mms.com
-build a little house of sticks
-cook something from scratch while you have no idea what youre gonna make
- pull pranks on the cousins and brother
-watch some homevideos and pop some corn.
-get on that phone and call your friends.
-dont you have any messenger like AIM or Yahoo Messenger?
- if your aunt gonna be a *****, be a ***** right back at her.
-forget what your mom said.
2007-08-08 19:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by ilovewhatshisface:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is a *****. Honestly, you're probablly getting crap from everyone because they hear your mom and aunt ripping on you and think it's okay.
I don't know how old you are, but you're probably stuck for a while, so it might be best to talk to your mom about the situation and see what she tells you. If she keeps being unsympathetic and a pain, then just wait for school and talk to the counselor about it.
2007-08-08 19:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by John B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? If under 18 I understand mom not wanting you out of the house,as for your brother,is he over 18? But,if you get sleepy what does she expect you to do? Are you thebabysitter to these cousins of yours,if so,tell the aunt you want to get paid,just like any other babysitter would.
2007-08-08 19:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by darkeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a family meating and sit and talk with them they will keep getting more jerky if you dont tell them how you feal.
2007-08-08 19:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by killedheart101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your family, you odviously did something very bad that your family is disrespecting you. Just talk to your family about it.
2007-08-08 19:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't trust u
2007-08-08 19:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by A New Married Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋