i am 54 yrs young, but new to the dating world, any advice what to talk about on a first date besides ex's

Answer 1

First date talk should be light....likes.dislikes, talk about current events, but nothing controversial like religion, politics, views on abortion, etc. Talk about hobbies, movies, music, light family talk (about your family). Don't talk about exes or family issues or deep dark secrets, etc.

Answer 2

I'm 54 and single also. I don't date much because I'm also a single parent and raising my kids is my first priority. I have dated some ladies that I met on yahoo personals. I really like First Lady's answer. Keep it light and non-committing. You will find that ladies that are age compatable to us know how to lead the conversation. Some want something long term and others only want a physical relationship. Just be yourself.

Answer 3

Hehehe ... actually, I rather think exes might be the topic you could *avoid* on your first date ... you want to have a good time, don't you?

Seriously, a first date should be about getting to know the other person and finding out if you want to know them better. It's also a chance for you to show something of your own personality.

Try asking your date some questions about themself ~ are they local to the area or from somewhere else? If they came from elsewhere, why and have they ever wished they'd stayed in their home town? Where do they work and do they like their job? If they work in the home, how do they find that ~ fulfilling? isolating? What sorts of things do they like to do in their free time? Is family important to them?

Actually listen to the responses (instead of just waiting for your turn to talk, lol), you'll find that one answer leads to even more discussion ~ try not to ask just 'yes'/'no' questions, ask questions which require a little explanation and choose something from the comment on which to base your next question.

Avoid asking anything too personal (e.g., financial staus, etc) and be wary if your date wants a lot of information like that from you ~ it may just mean they are a careful person or it could mean they are overly materialistic.

When it's your turn to answer some questions, be open but not too personal in your replies, try to avoid bad mouthing the ex (even if you've got cause, no-one wants to know at this stage) and try to fond some sort of connection between your answers and your date's ~ do you both enjoy fishing? Do you both like road trips, or dancing? etc

Use the first date to become friendly, maybe even become friends. Once you are friends with someone, it's a lot easier to talk to them, and a lot easier to decide what role they may play in your future life!

Good luck and best wishes :-)

Answer 4

Never, ever talk about ex's - at least not to any great length. I think it's sort of like a job interview in that respect. You should never say bad things about an old boss because they might think that you have a bad attitude and are difficult to get along with.

Talk about your interests, hobbies, places you've traveled to, your children if you have any, etc. You can talk a little about your job but keep that minimal. Most people can go on and on about their job but that is usually pretty boring to other people.

Answer 5

A wise choice, former disappointments are never a cheery topic.
Talk about what she likes, what kind of music she enjoys, where she likes to vacation, if she likes to do whatever it is you like to do, fishing, motorcycles, gardening, whatever.
If she is smart, she will ask you the same things and keep the conversation going. The hint here is to get her to talk about herself, everyone loves to talk about themselves, but, sooner or later, she should return the interest by asking you about yourself, you don't want to be in a one way conversation.

Answer 6

You could start off by showing her your interests and if anything sparks her interest then you can talk about that. You know, find out what you two have in common. Just relax and be yourself. And throw in a good joke! ;)

Answer 7

I guess theres always the weather.... (can you tell I've been married 30 yrs?)

Answer 8

basic interests, hobbies, the regular "where did you go to school?", jobs just a very light conversation.

Answer 9

When last you both had sex...in your case 40 years ago ha ha