My Mother Cries Because of her Bad Son.?

Question

My mother in her 60s and my brother in his 40s is a sad relationship. My brother who lives in his apartment brings all his laundry at home and mother does his laundry, picks up his mail and many packages. He refuses to help her on her car since she cannot repair things like he can. He always backstabs her and calls her bad names, and says the washer washes the clothes not my mom. He claims that she never supported him, which she did all the way until he was 33 years of age at home. He always wants alot of money from her plus a tip if she wants a little thing done on the car. He is ruthless and unmerciful, and mother is heartbroken.
My Q is since he is like this, does God forgive him, because he is so vicious, and will he pay for acting like this toward mom?

He even steals stuff from our house when we are not home. He accuses family members of taking or stealing his mail or boxes that come in late he blames my mother. By the way, the mail is late and he always accuses us of somethin

He never talks about God, or goes to church in the last 15 years.

Answer 1

That is really sad. I have people like that in my family, my brother's father, for one, who actually was cut off from his mother for the most part, because he was a drug-abuser and in and out of jail and rehab..
Anyways, about God forgiving your brother. Is your brother religious? Does he ever talk about God, besides saying GD? There is absolutely no way this man has any relationship with God or Christ at all. If he did, he would not act the way he does.
When he gets to the gates of Heaven when he dies, Christ will say he doesn't know him. There will be no forgiveness once he's gone. Christ gives him that chance so many times while he is here. He will look at your brother, and say 'I do not know him.'
He still has hope. If he changes how he is, and starts a relationship with Christ, he may very well be forgiven. But if he keeps it up, you already know the answer.. Just try talking to him.
I feel sorry for your mother, she shouldn't have to go through that.

edit: I will state, in contradiction to all of this, that I have never been to the gates, and I am not God. Only he can tell if your brother will be forgiven.
God only forgives what you ask him to forgive. You ignore him, he will ignore you in return.

Answer 2

Although this is a really sad situation, your mother *chooses* to live this way. She has every right to send him out and not invite him back into her home, but she has, at least for now, decided to live with his atrocious behavior. Encourage your mother not to give him any more money. Remind her how ungrateful he is about what she does give him, and the fact that he is a GROWN A@@ MAN. Also, pop on down to the post office and make sure all his mail gets sent to his own house. There's no reason he should still have his mail delivered there.

Answer 3

God' say to always honer and respect you parents. so that would make what he is doing a sin.
and yes, he will be judged for what he is doing. some say God, will forgive all. yes, all that lives by what is not wrong such as sin. the Bible was not wrote to warn us about sin and the great Judgment if everyone will be forgiven. we are here on this earth to be judged for the way we are.
why would a Bible even be wrote if it was not for us to live by. I do not know where this, everyone is forgiven came from.

the Bible, tells us we are here to be Judged. we are going threw a test. That is what it means about. the new Testament.

So' yes, he will be judged. and will not make it to Heaven if he does not change his ways. Believe in God, and live by his word, and go to Church.

Can you talk to your brother. point out to him that your Mom, is very old and may not be around much longer. if he has a heart at all, he should feel bad for what he is doing. if not, when she is gone, he will pay later. for all that she is doing for him now, will fall on him to do for himself.
It will all come back on him. but this is very sad. if you can always do what you can to help her.

It is good that she has you. you sound, as if you care. also, it can be, that your brother could be on drugs, I am not sure, but for him to be acting the way he does. it does sound that may be the problem.

but no matter what. please help your Mom, as much as you can. she needs you. she helps him, because she loves him. also she loves you. but she is worried about your brother. so in her way, even if he does not respect her. she will keep trying, because of her love, and hope that he may change.
when I see, something as this it hurts me. I wish I could do more, than just give you an answer. but as it is, I do not know how, to help in any other way.

all I can say, is pray for your Mom, and Brother. they need it very much. I hope things will get better, for both of you, also your brother.

Bless You, for what you are doing. I will also pray, for you and your family.

Answer 4

Yes, if he seeks god's forgiveness he will be forgiven.
It seems to me mom should kick him out of the nest.
If a forty year old hasn't got it by now, he most likely won't but to be on his own might make him think about what is going own in his life.

Answer 5

Your mom needs to change the locks and cut him off. He needs to have a good old fashioned butt kicking, and YOU, being his sibling, should not let him get away with treating your mom like that! You need to step up and talk to him. If my brother acted that way I would beat his sorry AZZ.

Answer 6

god forgives everyone.
the bible states that.
but when he mets god he will be reminded of his wrong doings and face god.
that will be his ultimate payback.