If you honestly believe there is a Heaven, and that this hypothetical loved one of yours is going there, then why do you cry? Why would you cry over someone going to a place of eternal happiness and peace? Shouldn't you be celebrating? Isn't death just a new life to you guys?
It would be understandable to cry over someones death for an atheist or agnostic, the reality we will never see that person again is something we accept, but you Christians cry as if your loved one is dead-dead, as in not going to Heaven and you'll never see em again.
Christians, is death even really 'death' at all according to your beliefs? Or is it just vaccation?
2007-08-08 12:04:09 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Guys, "pain"? "grief"?
If you believe this person is heaven then WHY would you be feeling pain or grief in the first place?
2007-08-08 12:10:51 · update #1
"because it still hurts"
But >WHY< does it "still hurt"?
2007-08-08 12:12:10 · update #2
"they wouldn't be able to see them on earth again"
So what?! I wouldn'y cry if could never see someone in Canada again!
If you believe your going to see them in heaven then why does it matter that you will never see them on earth again?
2007-08-08 12:14:05 · update #3
"because we miss them"
Again, if you believe you will meet them in heaven for the rest of eternity, than why would you feel tremendous pain and suffering over "not seeing them for a little while'?
Do you cry the same way at a funeral as you do when some one moves out of your area or something?
2007-08-08 12:17:37 · update #4
"Some cry because they believe they are truly dead. Some cry because they were very attached and wished they could have had more time."
Wished they could have had more time? Well gee, eternity isn't long enough or something?
2007-08-08 12:20:30 · update #5
LOL - I love your questions!!!
Makes people really think, before they speak - you know?
Anyways - Starrr! -
2007-08-10 10:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Liquid Spear Waltz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does anyone cry upon ones death? Some will cry because they will not get to see their loved one for a long time. Some cry because they believe they are truly dead. Some cry because they were very attached and wished they could have had more time.
In reality, when someone dies, it isn't an end, it is a beginning. When you die, there is more. I believe truly in reincarnation and a heaven. I believe that when someone dies, they have a choice to go to their own personal heaven or to be reincarnated back to Earth.
Something else many do not realize, even after a loved one has passed, you can still talk to them, but you have to be open and believe you can.
2007-08-08 12:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by katasuka 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why do people keep asking the same questions over and over again? Lord knows how many times I've seen this asked.... and answered.
We cry because we love them and MISS them. Even Jesus cried when He stood at the tomb of Lazarus (John 11:35, "Jesus wept.") even though He was about to raise Lazarus from the dead back to life!!! Why should we show any less love than He?
There are two deaths, as there are two births... your physical death and your spiritual death. Your physical death is a real death, it is the "end of functioning" of your physical body. However, your spirit is eternal, it does not experience a "physical" end, or any ending at all. The death of one's spirit is the "separation" of that spirit with God. That is what is referred to as hell... because hell is not an actual physical place, it is a state of being... that state being "outside" of the presence of God.
So, when a loved one dies physically, we cry because we miss them, and we also mourn for the hurt the others who loved him/her feel, too. It is not a "vacation."
2007-08-08 13:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do not cry because that person is "dead" since we know in our hearts that the one who dies in Christ is better off. We cry for what we have lost in this life. We are human and sad when someone we love moves away. Why should we not grieve over that person's death? Yet we do not grieve as those with no hope. We both celebrate and cry. Rejoicing and weeping are both appropriate for Christians.
You seriously wouldn't cry if someone you loved was moving away to another country and you knew that you would have no contact with that person ever again? You must not love very deeply.
2007-08-08 12:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christians mourn just like any other people. Yes, we do believe there is an afterlife, and that we will see our loved ones again. That is a tremendous help after a death. However, knowing we will see them again doesn't make us miss them any less when they are physically gone from our lives. Thus, even though we have great hope, we still grieve the absence of our lost loved ones.
2007-08-08 12:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by nardhelain 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When I have lost someone I loved I cried because I would miss them. Not because they have gone to heaven but because I will not have then anymore. It is sad to lose someone you love but knowing that we will be together in eternity one day is what helps me through it. I think it would be harder to be atheist/agnostic. Not having the belief that I would see them again. Because even if they are right and there is nothing after this, at least I had something to look forward to. I don't believe death is forever it is only temporary and eventually we will all be resurect immortal beings!!!
2007-08-08 12:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In reality when we (Christians) cry at funerals, it is self-pity, as we miss having that person around. This is not a bad thing for it shows that the person made life better in some way. Everyone has a certain amount of self-pity, which is probably necessary. Also, crying at funerals is a conditioned response, much like saying "ouch" when we bump something even though it may not hurt. My sister died a few years ago (aged 34), I was the only one at the funeral who didn't cry and at the time felt wrong, though in my heart i knew she was going to Jesus and that her sickness had brought her to Him.
2016-05-17 09:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny you asked this since my wonderful Mother just died last Wednesday. Yes, one week ago today. I cry because I love her and I'm going to miss spending time with her. To have a coffee with her. To go shopping with. To have around to celebrate holidays. To buy a Mother's day gift for. I cry for myself, because I won't have her anymore. She is the most wonderful person I have ever met. And for the rest of my life, I can never hold, kiss, hug, see, touch, hear, or talk to her again. BUT! I truly believe she is with Jesus right now. And I'm so happy for her in that aspect. Because you see, she had alzhimers for the last 10 years. She also had cancer she beat 10 years ago along with a mastectamy. And she beat cancer two more times after that. So now I'm happy for her that she is whole again. She has her mind back. She knows what she missed. She has no missing parts anymore either. I'm glad she is getting to see my children almost grown now. But, I cry for myself. Because I can't have my Mother here with me anymore.
2007-08-08 12:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Shari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are we not allowed to be sad and to miss the person who has died? We're human, we have feelings. We do celebrate that they have been taken to their heavenly home, but at the same time, they will be missed here on Earth.
The only funeral I didn't cry at was my great grandfathers. He died 4 months after my great grandmother of pure heartache and loneliness. That had been together 70 years. When he died, it was a happy moment... he was with his wife again.
EDIT: You've evidently never been apart from a loved one before. I cry when I have to put my husband on a plane, knowing it will be 4 months before I see him again. I cried when I left my parents and moved to the UK with my husband and children for job reasons, I probably won't see them for 3 years.
Please don't make me start singing "Feelings"!
2007-08-08 12:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by usafbrat64 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many people ask that questions before. At first, it seems to be a simple question. Then when one thinks about it, this question has deep meaning. There is a bigger question behind this. Do we believe in God is a loving God? And what is the meaning of heaven. Back to your question. The simple way to answer your question is like you know you want to get good grade in school and yet you don't want to study. Why? One is logic and one is emotion or feeling. The same applies to Christian. Make sense?
2007-08-08 12:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by musicABC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Duh... the answer is so obvious....
Even though the person is going to heaven, which is supposedly a great place like you said, they'll miss the person.
Even though they think they'll be with the person in the future, they are going to have to live the rest of their lives without them.
Its just like when people cry when they know they arent going to see a loved one for years, months weeks etc because of work, military duty, or other reasons...
Your ability not to grasp this concept is disturbing.... or just sad...
It has nothing to do with religion...
Having no feeling over the event would be Stoicism ... nothing to do with Christianity.
FYI I'm an atheist... so my answer has nothing to do with religion
2007-08-08 12:16:19 · answer #11 · answered by Alex M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋