Long story short... my boyfriend was away for the summer and things were tense, so we both decided to take a little break and try dating again when he got back. Now he is back and we have been dating and everything is great again, except occasionally he will say, "let's hang out later," then call and say he changed his mind, he's tired, he's sick, etc. I almost feel like he is playing games and trying to have the upper hand in the relationship, or is testing me to see how i will react. We are not a "couple" again yet, just seeing how things go before we jump into anything again. Do I have a right to be annoyed by this since we're not serious or exclusive, or am I overreacting?
(And I know for a FACT he is not cheating/dating other girls. He tells everyone he has a girlfriend because our relationship is too complicated to try and explain and we have many mutual friends who would tell me if anything was up.)
Thanks.
2007-08-08 10:52:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is testing you or he doesnt want things exclusive and is trying to decide if he wants to be with you or not. You should figure out what is up with him though. Start doing the same to him and see how he reacts. If he doesnt show that he is upset about it, then he is apparently not that interested. That is when you should move on with your life and leave him as an ex.
2007-08-08 10:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing with your mind, the truth is respect. Regardless if you two get together or not, he still need to respect you. Let said I book a trip to Las Vegas, airplane ticket, hotel, is all pay up front. 2 hours before the fly, "Honey you ready? I am coming to pick you up now." You said "i am tired, i don't want to go"
Well hello, how would you feel? So slap the guy and tell him he need to show a little bit more respect to you.
2007-08-08 17:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Play your own game of "walk away"...start being too busy for him, FOR REAL Go out with other people, other friends, other groups...show him he isn't important enough for you to put your life on hold. If he wants you, he can come along, if not--well, at least you'll know where you stand.
2007-08-08 17:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by hobbesjohnson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody enjoys being stood up and this is a very childish game. Next time when you make plans, tell him you hope his calendar is clear, since he is so busy.
2007-08-08 17:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes ill or wants space and thats why hes not got back with you serious cos he still needs his own time and thats where its come from. or he might be telling the truth.
only way u gonna know is by talking to him???
2007-08-08 17:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Draconia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship is built on honesty and trust. Without which, there is no relationship. In your shoes, I would 'continue your break'. ;)
2007-08-08 17:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it yourself you are probably overreacting and you only can feel this way if you were BACK together.....quess he really enjoyed his time off...if the relationship stays too complicated it isnt worth forcing it though....
2007-08-08 17:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy probably doesn't like you that much if he changes plans.
2007-08-08 17:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by lovely19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any Tylenol for my aching head?
2007-08-08 17:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GAME
2007-08-08 17:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋