i know whats right but i just want to know what you think.
im almost 19 but have always wanted a baby. i also know that i should be responsible and wait until my life is more secure. my older 2 siblings do not have any children yet & thats ok but.. i wanted my mom to have a grandchild and experience that just in case something happens.
2007-08-08 10:30:50 · 14 answers · asked by uneq_layd 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Trust me at 19 you should be partying and dating and having lots of fun the time will come for you to have children. If you really like babies that much maybe you should be a paediatrician or a day care teacher and work around them all the time. You are to young not because you wouldn't be able to handle it but because there are other things you have to con cour first before becoming a parent
2007-08-08 10:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Angie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have a baby just so your mom can have a grandchild. There's other people involved in having this baby besides you and your mother. I mean... you have to think of the baby. If I had a baby when my mother wanted grandkids... I would've been a mother at the age of 12. And yes you should be more responsible and wait until your life is more secure. Having a baby is great... but you should really wait... Your 19... you need to enjoy it while you still can. Take it from someone who knows. I don't have any kids... but I babysit several whos mothers were too young to have them when they did. And now the children are suffering.
2007-08-11 23:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by ~<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 19 year old is NOT ready for a baby! You mom will be able to experience being a grandma sometime or another more and likely! Just bc your older sibilngs aren't ready for a baby now doesn't mean you should go get pregnant. I am sure if you asked your mom she would rather wait on the grandchild then have her baby have a baby!!
2007-08-08 17:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by baby1august 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all is anything wrong with your mom? I am sure that you being happy is her biggest concern, and a child is a HUGE responsibility for a 19 year old.
Before you think any further ask yourself these questions:
1. are you finished with school?
2. do you have a significant other adn if not, weigh out the option of being a single parent both for you and the child.
3. are you financially stable? do you have your own place? are you taking care of the bills? are you struggeling if you are on your own?
There are so many other important questions to ask yourself. I have worked with many 'kids' (14-18) who have children of their own. IT IS NOT ALL FUN AND GAMES!!! I want to have children and I am 26 and still just starting to think about it. You are still young. Enjoy it!
Maybe try working or volunteering somewhere with babies or small children and see how you handle that as well.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 17:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Angel3192 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good reason to have a baby. A baby is a life changing experience. Forget parties, forget going out at spur of the moment, forget sleep!! LOL It is a full time job and not one to do alone. Wait, you need to experience a little of life before you rush into having a baby, and yes, you very much need to be financially stable too. Kids are not cheap to raise.
2007-08-08 17:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by randy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT... ok so are you married? if not then definitely WAIT!
you are too young and i know everyone is going to tell you that but i am only saying it because you have time and you should be enjoying this time . i had so much fun hanging out with friends dating growing up and finding out all about myself.. this is the best time of your life.. i would say about 4-5 years from now start thinking about it.. dont bring a child into this world if you are not 100 % going to be there financially, responsibly and being dedicated to raising him or her... trust me you will be ok waiting a little bit longer...
2007-08-08 17:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may think that you want kids, and you do. Not at this age though. It wasn't a stupid question (that's what you posted on your other question) but you COULD have a child at this age, I just wouldn't recommend it. As long as you are married with someone that you really love, you are financially stable, had your own place, room for another person, and you have enough money for another person. If you had all of those qaulities than it wouldn't be very hard for you to have a child and you could have a child.
2007-08-09 00:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not the reason a person should bring a child into the world. Is your mom on her death bed as we speak? If not, it seems kind of morbid that you would consider her untimely death into the equation. You should decide to have a baby when you're in a stable and loving relationship, when you know your finances are capable of raising a child. Your mom will have grandchildren soon enough. :)
2007-08-08 18:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are financially able and are willing to give up any kind of college or dating and with out any re great give your child your un divided attention for the next 15 years of your life. Then I think it's a wonderful idea.
2007-08-08 18:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by White Boyz69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT have a baby simply because something might happen to your mom.
Just the fact that it occured to you tells me that you are defiently not ready for a child.
My husband and I had our first when we were 19, but it was what WE wanted, and what was best for US, not our parents or anyone else
2007-08-08 17:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋