Why is my new-mum sister ignoring me?

Question

My sis had a baby last August, we had a good relationship until then, sharing secrets etc.
Now she is ignoring me and my other sister, who is similarly upset. She never calls, but expects me to call her - my Mum helps her out a lot for free, and gets flak from my sis if she doesn't put her first. When I was ill last year my sis kicked off because my Mum was supposed to go and help her that day. I was ill and was about to go away for a week. She needed help with the baby. To her, she was more important.
I find this selfish and want it to stop.
What interests me most is that my sis was the world's biggest critic of other parents, before she was one herself. I was an observer of other parents, not really wishing to condemn them. Now she is the world's biggest hypocrite.
I want to do something about it but talking to her is not the answer. She is not receptive and never apologises for anything she does. I'd be interested to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. Thanks in advance

Answer 1

Lets just say I've dealt with that type of personality. Not that exact type of situation. Usually very caring people outwardly, but the inward part is were the jam is. They typically have a deep-seated hate, insecurity, inability to relate deep inside what is really the matter. Hard to explain... lets just say the ability to emotional relate all the feelings gets a tad hard for people espacially when there not sure there doing a good job, but still want people to think that. An easy way to manuplate a situation into something like that is to blame the other parties. Makes it seem like your doing EVERYTHING you can and any problem others see are there own faults. Typically happens alot in people that overly critize others because they fear thats what everyone else is doing to them. You could breck the ice and reassure her how much you love, respect and look up to her, but be careful that she doesn't feel like you... putting her on the spot? That your just picking at her agian in other words, very hard personality to deal with easpacially if your not a relationship councillor, or if you havn't read a psycology book past highschool 101. Ether way your understanding her situation a little better so you can give her the reassurances she needs could help. Such as weres the father in all this? Isn't dad helping out? How is the relationship with the other sister? How is mom and dad treat her? How have you treated her? Really you have to choice, except like the rest move on with your life, or accept that this just one of those intense relationship things you have to do for sis, emphasise. I know not fair, she should be doing it for you, but some how mom and dad only got her so far, if you were watching, then you've most likly already got an idea why... so its up to you, fix it, or leave it, just remember she is your sister, and you can never forget here, forgive, but not forget, good luck!