I am, and I do not know what to think of now... even my best single friend - is now offically seeing someone for 6 months, I am kinda getting the feeling that i will be a 60yr old, who has never been in a serious relationship and is incapable of finding someone who actually interests me for more then 1 weeek, I don't quite understand it right now...
I just feel totally alone, almost like stuck on a deserted island with no hope of return, and Its not like I want to be single anymore, but I don't want to settle either... Yes, I am one of those career focused, ego c3entrics, But I dont get it the world is crashing down, and I ALWAYS buy my own tickets for stuff when out with my friends... I honestly feel a little jealous when they split costs and I pay FULL price, and my food etc...
I guess its just the feeling of looking at them happy (all of them) and seeing I am the opposite at that time...
Please Help
2007-08-08 10:04:43 · 8 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well yes... about 5 yrs over 18.... and I have been single 2 yrs
2007-08-08 10:10:18 · update #1
Here's your problem:
"Yes, I am one of those career focused, ego centrics."
This makes you your own problem. It's one thing to have a healthy ego, but you're working on pride that's counterproductive. Further, you need to change your view of things. Stop being jealous of your friends - eventually, they'll sense this and won't want to hang around with you.
There's an old story: a man goes on a quest to find the perfect woman. When he returns, his friend asks him, "So, did you find the perfect woman?" "Yes, I did," he replied. "She lives in Sweden." His friend asks him, "So, where is she now? How come she's not here with you?" The man tells his friend, "She's looking for the perfect man."
2007-08-08 10:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by smylex99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at them the next time they're not happy. Listen to their quarrels, the tears, the things they do to make the other happy, and the heartache when it doesn't work out. You're looking at just the good and wishing for that. Give it an honest appraisal and ask yourself which is better.
As to your speculation you'll be 60 with no relationship--I thought at 17 I would never find true love and at 19 I wanted to die of the loneliness. By 25, I had been married twice to loving men (widow and remarried) and had a beautiful daughter. By 43, I had two great kids, was divorced and seeing someone who became husband #3. Now at 54 I am again a widow, grandmother to four lively grandkids, and ready for a new relationship. Don't ever give up--love will find you.
2007-08-08 10:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there's anything wrong with feeling a little jealous. I'm not even sure if jealous is the word to describe it. I think all we really want is to have somebody at our side sometimes. I understand that you are very independent, and there is nothing wrong with that at all. I think you should just date around, meet new people.
2007-08-08 10:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by 0000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look her lil mama.....u shouldnt feel that way, u should be happy with ur freedom to talk and do watever u want withuot feelin bad about ur boy....i had a gf that cheated on me with 2 guys and ive dated but nuthin serious for 6-7 years and yes its lonely but now after all that time i found one grl im happy with...give it time finding someone special takes time because there are alot of people out there with bad intentions...i felt wat u felt and dated a grl tryin to get that feelin to go away but it was a mistake and waste of time...i know it isnt the best advice but it does take time to find someone
2007-08-08 10:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by D.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill out and relish being single instead of having a guy who'll tie you down. I know that sounds hard, but then again, so does going up to a cute guy and chatting him into giving you his number.
2007-08-08 10:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl stop stressing yourself out about it your time is going to come, maybe you haven't being looking in the right places or maybe the right guy hasn't caught your eye yet.
2007-08-08 10:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Miss L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your over 18 I will take you out satisfaction guarentee
2007-08-08 10:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello there
well the best advice that i can give you is that somewhere sometime you will find your soul mate so dont give up!!!!!
2007-08-08 10:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by mcrobinson83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋