I work at a convenience store that is owned by a Korean couple. They have recently become short-handed, so they decided to temporarily hire the son of some friends of theirs, who are also Korean, to help stock the store at night. For the past several nights I have been working the graveyard shift with this punk. Mind you, even though he's not officially an employee of the store and is only working there temporarily to help the owners out, he somehow still thinks he has the right to boss me around and to critique my performance. Don't get me wrong. I don't mind getting CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, but he doesn't give me that. Rather, he's a complete asshole towards me and acts as though he has authority over me, which he does not. Generally, I'm able to get along with most people, but he's definitely an exception. I refuse to take his B.S., and whenever I stand up for myself, he has the nerve to accuse me of having a bad attitude! HA!What's your take on the matter?
2007-08-08 10:01:43 · 9 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ask the owner to clarify your position.
Was he hired to supervise you?
If the owner says no, then set the guy straight. Tell him you have talked to the owner and that he is not your boss.
If the guy persists, then tell the owner that you are prepared to quit right then, preferably right before the start of a shift, unless the owner tells the guy to back off.
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2007-08-08 10:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by HJG 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me this is a common social phenomenon, a clash of male wills and pride. It is not a mental health problem and should more effectively be taken up in "Family and relationships" or "sociology/psychology." Two young guys who both have a need for dominance often get into this kind of relation and start jockeying for ascendancy; do not sucker into a "dominate or be dominated" relation with others. It is a stupid way to live. Learn to cooperate and if this is not possible, forgive him, ignore him and forget him.
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2007-08-08 17:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not trying to be a racist, but a lot of times men from Asian cultures tend to belittle women and treat them like trash, or that they have a one up over them. I would definetley talk to your boss over this, his has no right to do this. If it is not a cultural issue, perhaps he just has issues and feels threatned by you somehow and is trying to belittle you. Men in general can do that sometimes.
2007-08-08 17:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by marm212 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just goes to show ya! People that are different are different. Oriental people do not like Americans. I know I'll get thumbs down on this but it is true!
2007-08-08 17:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by ndnquah 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with HJG.
Sounds like if you are not Korean you will always be second best there. You should look for something else..
2007-08-08 17:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him and his demands. When he says that you have a bad attitude, just say "Yes I do" and continue to ignore him. Let your manager know what's going on.
2007-08-08 17:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to him that until he is paying your salary he could keep his comments to himself. It certainly is not his place to critique your work that is for you real boss to do.
2007-08-08 17:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Choqs 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-08 17:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dollbaby 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's almost as much of a jerk as you.
2007-08-08 17:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋