My maternal grandparents live very close are will definitely be able to attend my wedding. However my paternal grandparents live on the other side of the country and have serious health issues. I do not want them to feel I expect them to make such a long trip but I do not want to be rude and not invite them. Should I send them an invitation anyway?
2007-08-08 09:44:31 · 57 answers · asked by KR 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have a similar situation...what we have done is include an insert into the invitations we recognize may not come...its simple- basically ..."Dear friends and Family...although many miles may seperate us, it is our hope that your thoughts and good wishes will be with us on our special day"
We did not want those who had to travel (especially with health or financial issues) to attend our wedding feel compelled to send a gift inabsentia- so far the feedback has been very positive.
2007-08-08 09:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely send an invite! They still want to be included in the big day! They'll probably frame the invitation on the wall and send a nice card with a gift.
After the wedding, send them a card saying how sorry you were that they couldn't be there for the big day. Include some pictures from the wedding and reception.
Also, when you and the new hubby have time, plan a trip out to visit them!
2007-08-08 09:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by renny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. That is a toughie. I was going to say Yes, because I have relatives overseas and I will still send them an invite, even though it is unlikely they will come. But then if the Grandparents are ill and unable to make it........YOu know what, I would still send one. They may be hurt if they are not atleast given the courtesy of an invite. But maybe you can send them a little note saying that although you guys would love them to be there, you totally understand if they cant and you will send them a video or photographs.
Good luck with the wedding
2007-08-08 09:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they will probably be offended if you don't send them an invitation. And they may want to hold onto the invitation itself as a keepsake. Just give them a call as you mail the invitation to let them know you're sending it. Tell them you understand they probably won't be able to make it, but you wanted to make sure they were invited. Offer to send them pictures or a video (if you have one) of the wedding so they can still share your special day even though they can't be there in person.
2007-08-08 09:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough! One one hand you don't want to be rude but on the other you don't want them to feel pressure to come. I would definately send them an invite but give them a call and maybe get your parents to do the same just so they absolutely know you won't be upset if they can't attend. But I would invite them and let the decision be up to them. If they do decide to come you and your parents should have enough time to make sure they have what they need to be comfortable.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-08-08 10:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! What a ridiculous question! You invite people to the wedding that you want to inform that you are getting married, and that you would love them to be there. It is entirely up to them if they respond YES or NO. The invitation shows RESPECT for your guests, especially grandparents!! You might be surprised at who attends and who does not. What if they decide that you are very important to them and that they want to make the effort in spite of their health? You don't deserve that type of consideration if that's the case. Khhhaaaa.....just cannot imagine anyone being so dipsy as to not want to spend 50 cents on a stamp for their GRANDPARENTS!!!
2007-08-08 10:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely should. The invitation simply expresses your desire for them to be a part of your day. A follow up phone call reassuring them that they don't have to make the trip will ease any worry about making them feel obligated.
Also, depending on your budget, it is possible to video conference them in, so that they would be able to experience the event as it is occurring.
At the very least, the invitation, and photos of the event should they not attend.
2007-08-08 09:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send them an invite. If you don't they might feel like they are not wanted and forgotten. But call them. Tell them you know there situation and they are not obligated to come. That you wanted to have a copy of your invite and after the wedding if the don't attend you'll send them some pictures.
2007-08-08 09:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ale.SP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may could send them a personal card and let them know how much you would love to have them there, but you know chances are they may not be able to come, not just an invite. It is not like they are not coming just because of the distance as a healthier individual may do. Let them know that you will be thinking about them that day and you love them. maybe even send them a copy of the wedding video so they can see how happy you were that wonderful day!!
2007-08-08 09:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they might be hurt if they are not invited. If I were you, I would send the invitation but include a handwritten and heartfelt letter saying that you wish they could be there for your special day, but that you understand why they can't. Tell them that you want them to feel included in spirit, if not in person. Don't forget them later---perhaps you could send pictures?
You sound like a very sensitive person, which is so refreshing to hear in this day and age. There are far too many bridezillas inflicting abuse on people.
2007-08-08 09:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by stonecutter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋