We were instantly attracted to each other's personality, and have huge fun whenever we get together. The problem is that he has a full head of pemature gray hair, and it's a turn off for me. I can't even let him kiss me because I hate his hair sooo much. He wore his head bald once, and it looked sooo sexy, but he says he won't bald it again and actually likes his gray hair. What can I do? I don't want to date someone who looks older than my dad; he doesn't want to change his hair for me; we REALLY like being together; but there's no hugging or kissing because the hair totally turns me off! Any suggestions on what to do? I REALLY like this guy otherwise, but I want to be able to be intimate too. Help!!!
2007-08-08 09:34:04 · 27 answers · asked by Foxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are letting hair get in the way of a relationship??? How shallow of you .......... I hope you dont make it with him, he deserves better............. ya know when you love someone , its not for what you think they should look like , its for the person, the personality, the kindness they show you.... not the hair!!!!!!!
2007-08-08 09:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people have gray hair -- some even in their 20's; some that age are even prematurely bald, so what does it matter? If your personalities are a match, who cares what they actually look like? He may "look" older than your Dad, but he still has huge fun with with you whenever you two get together. And he likes his hair, so do you like him or just don't want to like him because you hate his hair? Pretend he's bald and have a good time!
2007-08-08 09:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Foxy, if you REALLY like him, then you should be able to look past the hair. Maybe somewhere down the line if he's willing to change that for you, he will. But you shouldn't let that stop you from really getting to know him. You never know you could be missing out on your special guy because of him hair. I know it's easier said than done. Maybe he'd be willing to dye it. See if he's open to that idea and you guys could meet in the middle. Hope this helps you any and good luck!
2007-08-08 09:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hm, you're all about the exterior then. It's what's inside that should count and not what's on the outside. If you really care about this bloke, you will look pass his graying hair and be with him. It's not all the time you find someone who you can synchronize with in terms of feelings and all. When you do, for heaven sakes, hold on to them. Just be yourself and let your love flow. It will cover over the gray matter before your eyes.
2007-08-08 09:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Leona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an age difference, so what. I have a friend (who is a girl) who is 22 and is dating a 39 year old guy. They love each other and are happy.
The hair thing..either get over it or tell him.
Just be honest and it will work itself out. If you weren't meant for each other than that's ok too.
Plenty of other fish in the sea.
2007-08-08 09:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad that you are letting hair get in the way...if this is how you met him then tell him that is what attracted you to him...remember that people change and what if you started changing and he didn't like it...put yourself in his shoes...it is part of the aging process a fact of life...maybe try to color his hair if it is that big of an issue but if you really cared about him I don't think the hair would be that big of an issue.
2007-08-08 09:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother with him then? You obviously cannot feel that much for him if something as trivial as his hair being grey? Why should he want to change for you? he probably see's it as I do. if you really like someone enough you should take them for who they are, warts and all. supposing you had been together years and he had an accident and lost a leg, would you leave him because you found it a turn off? do'nt be so superficial. Good blokes are hard to find
2007-08-08 09:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by rottielover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid. Get real. Then find someone your own age group. If his hair means soooo much to you, you do not even like him as a man. You need to grow up. He could say the same thing about you.. that your too childish and too young to be seen with him for sure.
2007-08-08 09:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by mahalga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay... to be honest.. if you really like this guy... the hair shouldn't matter... take for instance the guy who won american idol... this guy had gray hair but was like in his 20's.. think of it as off white... otherwise... if you can't get beyond the hair... then why not let him nitpick at every flaw he sees in you.. you're 33.... act like it.... if this affects you so much... learn to grow up a bit...
sorry that sounded harsh.. but think about it... you're asking questions that 13 or 14 yr olds ask on here...
2007-08-08 09:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought you were attracted to his personality....i guess thats what happens when you are with someone much older than you. I mean its only his hair color fall in love with the man not the head of hair it really shouldnt matter. if it does your not in the relationship for the right reasons anyway.
2007-08-08 09:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋