Help!I'm a mum to a 6 year old girl!?

Question

My Daughter is 6. She is my world but boy does she get stroppy when she does'nt get her own way.She does NOT yet know the meaning of NO.She will make a mess in the lounge or her bedroom and when asked to clean it up she'll throw a wobbly and she thinks nothing of crying and going on and on in public either.She is such a beautiful child and I'm sure she only acts up for her Father and I .She is not always naughty but how do I effectivley disapline her and show her whose boss while at the same time keeping my cool.. Help im at my wits end with her..

Answer 1

Give her a spaken and if you dont believe in spakin's put in a timeout, ground her, and make her clean up the mess.

Answer 2

I've only seen 17 Again, but yes I would say it would be okay for a 6 year old to see. It didn't have any heavy sexual content. It had some kissing, and one scene talking about abstinence/safety in a health class. Other than that I wouldn't see any problem and both of those weren't bad.

Answer 3

Have someone film her when she acts this way... then ask her what she thinks of her behavior. Ask her what she would do, if she was you and you were her....
My kids understood no as a no at around 12 months of age... so, I wonder why your daughter doesn't perceive "No" as a no, yet. You seem to be a very mature parent, because you are not condemning your little girl.... Try removing yourself from the situation whenever she has this tantrum. The moment she goes there... leave. This way she doesn't get the satisfaction of having an audience. Just calmly walk away.... and tell her that you will get out of your room (lock yourself in a room, so she can't get to you for example) when she stops.

Answer 4

The only reason that she keeps acting that way is because u take notice of her when she does. Im not a mother, and im very young but i single-handedly raise three of my cousins, two boys and a girl. When she starts acting up like that, simply leave her to it and take no notice of her. When shes done with her fit just walk up to her and tell her 'no' very firmly and maybe deprive her of a priviledge eg, her fave toy. This shows her that her fit doesnt help issues but worsens it. Kids might be small but they are very intelligent, if u do this a few times, she realises that it doesnt work anymore, and she WILL think of another way, simply apply the same approach. Sit her down and tell her how you want her to ask for things(in a loving way) and tell her if she does not do this she will not get what she wants. Also(if the situation calles for it) gently explain to her why she cannot have some things and you will see that she begins to accept your no's (which she does understand but refuses to acknowledge). Communicate with her. x

Answer 5

You're the adult. You don't "ask" you tell her to do something, then make sure she does it. You need to be consistent. If something is wrong today it is also wrong tomorrow with the same results.
If she has a tantrum in public, remove her from the location. Go to the car or outside, set her down, then ignore her. Let her scream with no repsonse from you until she is quiet. She is after attention, even if it's negative. Don't give it to her. Put her in a corner to do her screaming for at least 6 minutes, then cuddle her when she is quiet. She should apologize for acting naughty.

Answer 6

Strict consequences

When your at your last stand, spanking works the best!!! There needs to be ample warning, plus minor consequences tried first (time out, taking toys away, grounding). If those don't work, it's time for a spanking. I suggest taking her to a privet place, have a quick talk, lower her undies, place her over your lap, and give her at least 6 (1 per age, personally we do 2, but that's up to you) spanks on her bottom. Talk some more about what she did to deserve the spanking, and how, by listening to mom and dad, she can avoid spanking in the future. It may take some time, because your changing her life style, but being consistent with this punishment will bring her around. She needs to know mom and dad don't play when it comes to misbehavior.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Have you heard of 1,2,3 Magic? It is a great program. The key is you DON'T lose your temper or raise your voice...once you do that, you have already lost the battle. You simply spell out your household rules...even have them written down and posted somewhere. When she breaks a rule you just say "Thats 1." No explanations, No arguements. If she backtalks, breaks that rule or another rule again, you say "Thats 2". Again no arguement. If it happens again you say "Thats 3 and take 10." She has 10 minutes to sit in what ever spot is designated...time out spot bedroom etc. If she throws a fit, pick her up, Do NOT say anything to her, and physically take her into her room...and her 10 minutes do not start until she stops the tantrum. Thats the gist of the program and it really does work. We use it in our house and rarely get past 1 anymore.

http://www.parentmagic.com/

Answer 8

My 7 year old daughter is very much like yours and I have tried several different methods. I now simply send her to her room and tell her she can come out when she can talk and behave like a young lady. The 10 or 15 minutes she spends in her room crying, yelling, or whatever happens to be her choice of tantrum that day is the best break in my day.

Answer 9

It can be frustrating having a child that throws temper tantrums to get their way. Heres my suggestion, I know this sounds harsh, but take away her toys and put them somewhere that she does not know about or cannot get to it. Then tell her everyday that she is good and does not throw a temper tantrum to get her way, she gets one toy back. Keep this up until she has earned all of her toys back. Likewise, everytime she acts up, take one toy away from her and have her earn that back. After you take away her toy, put her in time out. Always communicate with your child and let her know why she is going into time out and how long that she is there. Eventally she will figure out that she does not like being deprived of her toys and being placed in time out, so she will stop the tantrums.

Answer 10

Take toys away and say when you start behaving like a young lady you can get the privileges of a young girl. Reduce tv time or any other activity she likes. Until she starts obeying you, just show that she has good privileges but if she is naughty, they get taken away.