Many women on here complain that they cannot find a nice guy that will treat them right.
I consider myself a nice guy. Most women I come in contact with tell me how sweet and cute I am.
However, I cannot find get a date if my life depended on it!
Does that mean I am not a good guy?
Or
Are women unable to recognize a good guy?
2007-08-08 09:03:46 · 20 answers · asked by Matt 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on a lot of factors:sometimes women don't want such a nice guy. Or you may be tooo nice and it feels to the woman that you are trying too hard. Or perhaps you keep on hitting on girls who are already dating someone.
Besides count yourself lucky when the right gal comes along she will realize that you are a nice guy and snatch you up.
2007-08-08 10:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by avid_rafter765 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Generally women are attracted to "bad boys". I'm sure the politically correct crowd will disagree, but look at all the single mothers out there, or women who have men or "baby daddy" in jail. Show me one woman who doesn't have a relationship-related horror story about some loser guy, and I'll show you a liar.
As a nice guy, your missing ingredient is something along the lines of a salesman who can't ask for the deal. You can give a great presentation (your cleanliness, overall good looks, witty conversationalist, etc), but if you don't ask for the "sale"; you're going to be lonely.
A good way of going about getting dates is by spending time, listening a lot and then using an assumptive close with an either/or choice at the end. "Wow, from talking to you I feel really comfortable and that we have a lot in common. Don't you agree?". She'll say yes. Then you say, "I think it would be nice if we hung out together some more". She'll agree. Then you say, "Would Friday night be good, or would Saturday be better?".
Notice that this is not a yes/no question, but an either/or close. It will work and you can thank me later ;)
2007-08-08 09:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rick in Cali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think unfortunately you probably aren't as good a guy as you think. It's ok, I have that problem too, and I know other guys who have worked though it. First read the link bluedevil posted then read some of the articles Amanda J linked to. That'll give you a starting point for realizing how some "nice guys" think and why they're wrong. In particular, the link bluedevil posted could almost be called "Ode to a Doormat". I'd also go to Ask Men and read some of Doc Love's articles. I think he advocates too much game playing, but he does have some good points about what you should be looking for in a women and that keeping some excitement is a good thing.
2007-08-08 09:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
There are many women out there who are simply not mature enough to know a good guy from a bad guy. Mostly because they themselves are unsure of what they want. Women have to mature past all the drama and selfishness and love themselves and accept themselves for whom they truly are before they can honestly appreciate a true "good guy".
2007-08-08 12:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys only? If you want to understand Woman Speak you'd better listen to women. Guys DO NOT know the answer.
2016-05-17 07:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by alene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't seem to recognize a good guy, I always end up with jerks. But I have plenty of friends who could and they ended up married to great guys.
2007-08-08 09:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by burghgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would say that we cant recognize a good guy...we have been bullied and cheated on by the jerks that our minds are messed up so when a good nice guy appraoch us..we feel like here we go again he is just putting up a front to sleep with us......really when we have been with jerks after jerks mentally we get messed up in the head...but see thats where the nice guy comes in reassure us that he really is a nice guy and to show us that not all men are scums of the earth
2007-08-08 09:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unable to recognize, bro... I am in the same boat as you!
Read this article about nice guys... It's amazing.
http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html
2007-08-08 09:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. Women can spot men from a mile away. Its what separates us from the girls and the boys.
You're time will come. Just make sure you are presenting yourself in the right spots.
You'll be ok. :)
2007-08-08 09:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, for me i can definitely recognized between good and nice guy. maybe she is not your meant for you. Do you believe in destiny? Then, if you believe so, definitely it will come long your way or maybe she's just around the corner awaiting you.
2007-08-08 13:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋