So I dated this guy for 2 years. To begin with everything was amazing! By the end the only reason I was with him was because I lost my virginity to him.
He was very verbally abusive and all but raped me any time we had sex (forcing himself on me). He was obsesed with video games often choosing them over me. The best part was his family. I was extremely close to his mother before we started dating and his entire family just really took me in. I loved them more than I ever loved him!
Well, we broke up last November and it wasn't pretty at all. At two in the morning he was sitting in my driveway "just making sure I was home." I had given in twice before and started dating him again but in order to not do that again I didn't talk to him for 3 months after we broke up. We talk no occaisionally.
The point is: I just started thinkin bout him alot and even calling my boyfriend his name. WHY??? I love the guy I'm with but why do I do that??
2007-08-08 08:49:00 · 12 answers · asked by whoa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thinking about a person who has made such a tremendous impact on your life is completely normal. You may have a subconscious fear that your current boyfriend may turn out to be like your ex. Maybe that is why you are saying your ex's name and thinking about him.
2007-08-08 09:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Rape" and "boyfriend" should never be two words one would associate with each other. You made the right decision to get away from these guy, now make a clean break (no talking "occassionally"). It's quite natural to reminisce about someone you used to date for that long, but he obviously wasn't good for you.
2007-08-08 15:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was your first. You'll never forget him. Stop trying to. Just focus on the guy you're with now. And if he keeps waiting in your driveway and whatnot, I suggest you call the police before he becomes violent. What he's doing is called "stalking"
2007-08-08 15:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe even under all that physical and verbl abuse you really did have feelings for him. However, he treated you badly and you deserve way better that that and now you have it w/this new guy that you have. But you need to figure out a way to stop thinking about him or a least stop calling your current boyfriend your ex boyfriend name.
2007-08-08 15:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by ronne_funstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with him for two years its totally normal. That doesn't mean anything but maybe you should focus more on your boyfriend and the relationship you have now. Try to get over your past and enjoy your present.
2007-08-08 15:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by ADRIANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may been miss be with him cause u been with this guy long time... mostly people who dating long time they don't forget off their minds cause they been together long time which is hard to off their minds....and if he sitting or been around ur house AGAIN...which he is stalker! that is not good!...did u tell the police that he rape u? cause u cannot be acceptable of him rape you, or abused you!
2007-08-08 15:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some unresolved issues.
It will take some time to get closure and don't worry about calling your new guy by your ex's name- unless you still have feelings for him?
2007-08-08 15:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the asshole of a boyfriend you had might have messed you up... you should definitely seek therapy, also... get a restraining order against the f*cker, and land his abusive *** in jail!
if it really is rape, call the police, and have him arrested and locked up... that is no joke
2007-08-08 15:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why you do that? well i think because you spent two years with this guy and you lost your virginity to him beleive me people never forget their first time and dont worry just move on and expect better things from this new guy.....love to the fullest.........
2007-08-08 15:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe you even put up with that for two months. He was your "first" thats why ... Dont go back to that its not worth it .... at all !!!
2007-08-08 15:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋