I have been married for over 3 years and during that time I have encounted so much grief and agony over a evil stepchild and my husband's exwife. They are horrible people. We have been in and out of court for restraining orders, fighting over this and that and it is miserable. She is now on her 3rd marriage in 3 years, so you get the picture. She expects everything to go her way all the time. Her child (husband's with her) is downright horrible. He is disrepectful and rude. He has even threatened to shoot me and he is only 7. Now she is on her 3rd marriage and doesn't want to deal with him anymore, so now he wants to come live with us. My answer is no way. He is not even allowed to visit. My husband goes other places with him and doesn't bring him around. Will this ever stop and am I wrong to hate them both.
2007-08-08 08:31:24 · 25 answers · asked by squaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'll tell you what. there is a similar situation with my mother. My step-brother caused all sorts of havoc when he was younger cause his mother was a psycho woman and a drug addict. he is now 19 and you wanna know where he is and what hes doing? well after the whole family finally disowned him because he was stealing everything from guns to animals to sell so that he could by meth and whatever else he was on. This is after my mom bit the bullet let him move in. after my mom and step-father tried to get him in rehab and tried to help him out every possible way they could think of. He is still a drug addict and last week he pulled a knife on my step-dad. PULLED A KNIFE ON HIM!!! dont get me wrong I feel bad for him cause of the life he was put through. as you should for the 7 yr old. but personally I hate my step-brother for the torture he has put my step-dad and my mom through. and do you think the psycho druggie ex-wife does anything about the fact that her son acts like this? of course not shes too busy getting messed up with her boyfriend. So to all of you who are persecuting this poor woman for the fact that shes unhappy about dealing with this. keep your stupid traps shut unless you have been anywhere near the kind of havoc that something like this causes. not only to her but to everyone in the family.
2007-08-08 09:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lorena 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
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2016-05-05 21:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to get used to her sniffing about and being in your life. Your'e a step mom to HER kids, she is doing her job by making sure her kids are well cared for, and that also means for some ladies who might be a little scared, dropping by at unexpected times. This sounds a bit extreme of her. The ONLY way to get her to settle down is to befriend her some more, try to have light convo. with her that have nothing to do with kids, husbands, dogs.. etc. and instead, make a pot of coffee, sit down with her and talk about womanly things. It will come out that she's just worried, and she can open up abouther fear. The problem is that there isn't enough communication between you and her about the kids on days that she ISN'T around, so encourage them to give her a phone call when they are with you, or even call her yourself and let her know that sally did a good job on her book report, or ben learned a funny new joke. Just show her you want to be involved at her level.. you both need to work on this without being against eachother. Get used to her being around. If she sees you are interested in working on this with her for the sake of the kids, she will feel a little more calm. Do not try and be a witch, and chase her off with a broom sitck, the last thing you need is a crazy mom on your doorstep. You know what they say, keep your friends close, and your enemies even closer! Keep your home happy and friendly and toxic free ok! :)
2016-04-01 06:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have been having a hard time with them. But I think you should try very hard to see this little boy apart from his mother. He's not responsible for any restraining orders or trips to court. He is very young and he's been living with her, a volatile woman on her third marriage in 3 years. At least one other man was in his life and then gone. So, there's your answer for why he acts out. Plus, she most likely is telling him bad things about your husband and you -- and he believes them because he is a child and, hey, Daddy doesn't live with him anymore, he most likely feels this as his dad rejecting him. And then you don't even allow him to visit? How do you think that makes a 7-year-old child in desperate need of loving adults feel? The person I feel sorry for in this mess is him.
2007-08-08 08:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by TaDa 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well I can understand being upset with the ex, but the son is a product of his enviroment, none of this is his fault, and how mad can you really be at a kid. I would take him in and try to help the little guy, yes he sounds like a handful but try it and help him, you don't want for him to end up like his mother right?
And the ex, just drop her and forget her. Don't waste anymore time and energy on her, because it only affects you and your husband. Just ignore her and her drama, and focus on the child and accept him and teach him what's wrong. It's hard but don't give up, things will workout for good if you try.
2007-08-08 08:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Remember hate is as powerful as love. You become what you hate. A child can learn to adapt quickly; you are the adult, lay down the rules. Then you won't look like the "evil stepmom".
2007-08-08 08:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by anaise 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think what you need to do is try to bond with your stepson, being a step mom is hard and your husband's ex has probably influenced him quite a bit in his acting out towards you. I think that your step son would probably benefit from some counseling. If it was me I think that I would allow him to come and live with us and get him the help that he needs. Its going to be a long tough road but I do think that in the end you and your husband could make a difference in this child's life.
2007-08-08 09:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 5 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are wrong. When you marry, it is a package deal. No 7 year old is THAT horrible. Little kids say mean things. They don't have the ability to control the world they live in, so that's what they do. You need to see things from HIS point of view. He is a little kid. How on earth can you deprive a boy from freely seeing his father???? If you really feel that way, you need to divorce and find someone without attachments. I would NEVER marry a man if I didn't want his kids, too.
I just read that you have a child by your husband. What if you got divorced and the new wife didn't want your child in Daddy's home. Doesn't sound too good does it?
Be a grown up and love this boy like your own.
2007-08-08 09:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋
Unfortunately some women just don't care, about their children or what others think of them. There is nothing you can do to change anything......but stay away from them before someone (you) gets hurt. Maybe with your husbands help his son can get the help he needs. But don't bring her problems into your house. She will be wanting to move in next! Tell him and her as long as you feel threatened you will not share your home or heart with them!
2007-08-08 08:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by dixiecutie4u 1 · 8⤊ 3⤋
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2015-09-13 19:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Emery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋