About a year and a half ago, I beat my wife. Another man came onto my property to defend her, I had my gun holstered on my side unbeknownst to the man. When I saw him, I drew my firearm and hit him in the head so hard that it fractured his skull. I pointed my weapon at the man when he was on the ground; and it was at that moment I realized that I was about to change many people's lives forever. It was if I had seen my future, and it was bleak; I knew that I had one chance to change it. I lowered my weapon, went inside and called the cops and told them what I had done. I cried when I had realized the mayhem I caused and what could have happened. No other injuries except for the ones described above. I served a year and a half in jail and had to sell my home to pay to the man I injured. I've been out of prison for over a year now. My wife stayed with me, but I told her I do not deserve her. I no longer feel any anger in my life. Can I truly be rehabilitated? Thank you all.
2007-08-08 08:23:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know of a similar situation in central Florida. The wife beater there has abused his spouse several times. The last time, the police were called and ran him in.
His employer (Volvo, the company not a dealership) is paying for his lawyer. He was released on $250 bail (it IS Florida), and is threatening to kill his wife and children.
Compared to him you may be doing OK.
But there has to be a screw loose in anybody who does what you did. Since it was you who called the cops, there is reason to hope.
2007-08-09 04:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion anything in the world can be fixed, but that my opinion. I think the first think that you need to realize is that you do have a anger problem and you need to fix it. Second LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES, so many times people say that I had a wake-up call but then go back to doing the same old thing in due time. Third understand that you have a great wife that's still next to you and wants to grow with you. So take that and make that you motivation to have a more meaningful life. Lastly, I speak for most men you are truely luck to have a women like that in you life. Best Wishes and Good Luck
2007-08-08 08:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by rico817 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't deserve her, but you can get the point that you do! And you can and should be rehabilitated before you get back to the place you were. Counseling or anger managment (when taken seriously) really works. My husband had problems when he was younger and got three years for it. He had to take all these classes after that and he really changed. He's never been the same since, he's learned how to manage his anger and he's been really great for the last 5 years. Good luck.
2007-08-08 08:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cita Bean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a truly amazing person in that you have seen yourself at your worst and have come through rehabilitated. Your wife has forgiven you; now you must learn to forgive yourself. Seek some personal counselling and consider talking to other people about your amazing transition. Perhaps you can help them change too. Congratulations.
2007-08-08 08:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly rehabilitated??? I think you have an understanding of what you did and you did pay for it...Its up to you now to know when things are going to far...You caged the beast, its still there...Just know that only you have control and you don't let it out...Thankfully you didn't pull the trigger, it takes a lot to do that and a lot out of you.
If you ever later down the road feel that much anger, walk away and get yourself together...Never let it get that far again, who knows next time...someone may not walk away....
2007-08-08 08:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, Jugs, I think you can get better. You do need to seek professional help if you already haven't. If your wife has stayed with you, that means she really, really loves you. Especially considering what you did. The reality of the matter is that you really don't deserve her, but she is willing to stay with you to work things out. I suggest you try marriage counseling, and that you work on treating her like nothing else on this planet matters (unless you have children together, of course.)
2007-08-08 08:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Travis E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was drunk and did the similar did the domestic classes and anger management it does help.she is truly a good woman to stick with you while being locked up.mine ended but like a bus a new one comes by every 10 minutes.and I found the love of my life and no stress.we can't change the past but the future is in our hands
2007-08-08 08:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're the only one that can answer the question of whether you're truly rehabilitated. I hope for her sake (and yours) you are. She must truly love you to have waited, so don't let her down a second time.
2007-08-08 08:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be rehabilitated. You sound like youre very sorry for what you did, which is really good. Just don't do anything like that again, and youre a good man.
2007-08-08 08:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you admitted ur faults, u owned up to it, served ur time and are remorseful. what more can u do? it seems like you have tried but you caqnnot change ur past, only ur futre. realize from these mistakes and move on., ur a lucky man for having a wife like that stick by you.
2007-08-08 08:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋