im a mom of 2 little kids and i want to know when i start dating when is the right time to bring him around them?
2007-08-08 07:45:30 · 14 answers · asked by amanda r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When they graduate High School.
I'm sorry that you are a single mom, and I realize you have needs, but the worst thing that you could do to your kids is to have men come in and out of their lives.
Please put their needs above yours.
2007-08-08 09:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you bring him around VERY slowly and don't rush things. How long have you been dating this guy, how much do you know about this guy? I would say bring him over anytime and simply introduce him to your kids, and get a feel for how they react to one another. At first UNDER NO cirmcumstances leave the guy alone with the kids; I'm not saying he is a molester but because of the society we live in , you can never be to cautios. Before he spends the night if I were you I would sit the kids down and in age appropriate terms explain to them that your guy friend will be spending the night. I wouldnt invite him to spend the night right away, I would at least give it 6 months to a year after you introduce him to the kids, just so that they can become comfortable and develop a rapport with one another.
2016-05-17 07:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are getting serious. Your kids should be the most important thing in your life and you don't want to many men coming in and out of your home giving them the wrong impression. When you date make sure you are up front about your children and perhaps plan a day time date that will include them but that is if it is someone you think you could start a serious relationship with. Keep your children safe there are some sexual predators out there that will target a single mom to get access to the kids.
2007-08-08 07:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it unless you're very serious and in a stable relationship with someone.
Kids will not understand meeting mommy's new guy and then if you break up they no longer see him. Too confusing.
If It were me, I would wait until I had many serious talks with Mr Right and you know you're for sure in a pre-enagment/extremely committed long-term relationship before ever introducing the kids.
Best Wishes to you!
2007-08-08 08:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lamont 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to see him a while(probably a few months)before. im not a little kid, im 17, but i was pretty damaging last year when my mom made me meet this guy she only saw once before. she brought me to a bowling alley where i had to meet his son and they were kissing right in front of me. then the next day she made me go around with them in the car, and he was way more affectionate than ive ever seen my mom be with anybody, even my dad. it was way too much for me! and the a week later they broke up! i think u need to really think if its for the long term, if so, then see how ur kids are around him. if ur dating him for just fun, then dont make them be around him. they are small and impressionable
2007-08-08 07:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would depend on how serious the relationship is and if there is a chance that the two of you might possibly want to get married. if not do not bring him around your children. if he were to just leave some day that would hurt your children very much. if the relationship is serious between the two of you then depending on the childrens ages i would invite your male companion over for dinner to see how he responds to your children and how they respon to him. children are very open and honest about people when they meet them for the first time. you can tell alot about hoe adults really feel about children when they meet them for the first time. i would interduce them and then back out of the scene and watch what happens. it will tell you alot. Good Luck!
2007-08-08 08:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by christina c 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he's no longer "the new guy". When the relationship becomes serious enough to consider marriage, you should introduce your children to him. This introduction should take place either in your Masjid/Mosque, Synagogue, Temple, Church, etc., or at an affair hosted by such. Remember our children are very bright and intuitive so you must also limit your conversations about your male acquaintance(s) around them unless and until you are ready to begin fielding questions and/or to make such an introduction.
Sister Iman
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2007-08-08 08:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by AConcernedMomForAllOfHumanity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married but almost divorced a couple years ago and I said that I would never let a man meet my kids until the relationship was serious and there was talk of marriage. Why stress your kids out if they guy is not a keeper...
2007-08-08 08:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are sure that the guy is stable and not psychotic. When you think it is "serious". How long does he plan on staying around? Wait until things are serious enough that you might be planning a future together. That way the kids dont get attatched to a man who is only temporary.
2007-08-08 07:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by dirttrackgirl_77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
l would never let a new guy around my babies until I had dated him a long long long time and there was talk about getting married. Then and only then would I let him come over to my house and meet my family. But I would not leave them alone with him and if I went out the room they would my babies would come with me and if he is any sort of guy he will understand just that.
2007-08-08 08:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋