How old were you and your partner when you had your first born? And last (as of now)? How many do you have?

Question

Answering for my parents my mum was 20. My dad (had a child with a different woman) and they were both 16 (it was a 'accident). Last for my mum was 37 and dad 38. My mum has 9 kids and 2 who died. My dad 12.

WHat do you think the answers SHOULD be for this? In a ideal world.

Answer 1

I was 16 when I had my first child. Yes that was probably young but I got thru High School and graduated early then expected. That does not mean everything was easy for me. There were some hard times, but with the right people around you can make it thru anything.

I now have 2 sons.

Answer 2

I was 17 when I had my 1st the father of my oldest 3 children was 23 at the time. I have 3 more with my 2nd husband. So 6 in all, 5 girls and 1 boy (he is # 6)
Everyone's "Ideal" world is different. I'm sure there are lots of people out there that think me either irresponsible or crazy for having 6 kids.
We can't imagine our lives without them.
Also, my children have a leg up on solving problems their selves. Learning to share. Helping out when needed without being asked. There are as many advantages to a big family as there are a small one. The only disadvantage is money..... and stretch marks. :)

Answer 3

me 32 husband 37, expecting #2 in 3 weeks now am 34 husband 39. In an ideal world the ages should be whatever financial circumstances and the couple's preferred status (married, not married etc) dictate. Though having done this in my 30s I would have rather been pregnant in my 20s with my 30s income and wisdom!

Answer 4

We were 20 years old when my ex and I had our daughter. I wasn’t good at school, so I had no need for higher education or a career. I worked whatever job I could get and as many hours as I could get. He was in construction. I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom and we had to go on welfare, but I got to stay at home and he stilled worked. We broke up 4 years later. I don’t think he was as ready to settle down as I was. I went to work and got married again to a younger (19 yrs.old) man and we had a son. Our son is 20 years old now and we’re still together. My hubby was younger, but much more mature and ready for a family.
You can't go off of age. It depends if you’re both ready to settle down. I think ideal would be both at least 25 years old. That’s young enough to still have the energy to raise them and old enough to have some wisdom about it. I did a much better job with my son then with my daughter. I hope this helps.

Answer 5

I was 12 days from turning 19 with the first one. My husband was 21. Then with the second one, I was 3 months from turning 21 and he is 23. They are 2 years old and 6 months old. We only want the two. (I should say he only wants two.) So this is the end. I got an IUD.

Answer 6

I was 21 hubby 18 when we had our first and 23 and 20 when we had our 2nd and last(tubes tied no more these 2 were both very preemie 2 months and 4 months early)

Answer 7

In Th Ideal word 2 people should date 1st then marry and then have sex and then have Babies.I was 15 when I had my 1st son and 22 with my middle child and i was 25 when I had my last child.No more kids in my Future,That it is until the Grandchildren arrive!

Answer 8

i was 20 and he was 21

Answer 9

my first i was 20 he was 21 and she died at birth
my second i was 24 he was 19 ( he is now my husband)
third pregnancy i was 26 he was 21 miscarried
4th i was 27 he was 22 i miscarried

we are currently ttc
i am 29 he is 24
i proudly robbed the cradle

Answer 10

I was 25 when I gave birth and my husband was 27. We only have one so far and she is almost 3. We want more. We want three in total. I hope to have them all before I am 32.

I don't think there is ideal. Everyone's life is so different.