Me and my ex have been working on our relationship, then he drops the bomb on me.The reason why he broke up with me and didn't want to pursue a relationship right a way with me because he got another girl pregnant she is 5 months along.It is killing me we been together 5 years I was pregnant a year ago and had a miscarrige and now during our break up he gets a girl pregnant. He says he still loves me in spite of everything and still has high hopes of a relationship. I love him but this is too much for me to deal with.So I told him I love him but I have to let him go.
2007-08-08 07:15:54 · 12 answers · asked by imacutie2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My question is how can a person handle a situation like this.
2007-08-08 07:17:51 · update #1
Trust me when I say that this is NOT the worst day of your entire life.......
The worst day of your life would be if you were one of those people driving home from work on that bridge that collapsed into the water in Minneapolis.
2007-08-08 07:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only time will heal all wounds. The good thing about pain is that you learn who you truly are. I know it hurts, but look at it this way; you dont have a child with him so you can move on and find that man who deserves to be in your life and your child's life. You dont want a man who cant control himself. Of course he will say that he still has high hopes because he is the one who screwed up. Let time do the healing. Trust that you will move on but you have to let him go. It takes two people to make a relationship work and if one is putting more effort then what's the point. You will find that man who will put the hard work in your relationship. But, until then, stay happy and peaceful.
2007-08-16 11:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you've exercised wise and good judgment. He is soon to become a father of another girl's baby. Let them work their parenting out - and their respective lives...If a few years down the road you're both still single and for whatever reason, can't seem to forget one another, then life might present a different picture.
But for now? I believe you did the right thing, the honorable thing and its time for you to move forward, date and open your world a little to other possibilities. Time will be the best indicator of how this all plays out - but now the gameplan is different, A CHILD IS INVOLVED and were I you, I would not want to interfere in any way with his poor choices, and move on.
Grace
2007-08-08 14:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me with my best friend 2 years after we were married. I hated him more than anyone can even imagine. He wouldn't leave our home or anything so we lived separately under the same roof for at least 6 months. I have forgiven him but I have not forgotten. I like to think things are better but I know the trust will never be there. Through time, things heal. We have been married for 12 years now and we are happy. Give it time. I know it seems hard now but if it's meant to be then it will be.
2007-08-16 13:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry you are having a bad day. you made the best decision. he cheated and lied to you. it may be very hard and make take time for the pain to go away but you will find someone out there that is better for you. i found out two weeks ago that my x fiance had been cheating on me for 4 months. it hurt really bad and i cried for a while but now i still feel the pain but i have gone two days without crying. i had a date last night and while im not ready to get into something serious with anyone it felt nice to have some attention from a guy and it did help. i hope you feel better soon.
2007-08-08 14:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds terrible. I know it may seem hopeless, but the situation will get better (Even though it may seem like it won't...). Do what you have to so you can feel better. Do small things for yourself, like cry if you need to, write a poem, read, take a long soothing bath. Do what you need to so you can recooperate.
If I were you, I'd be very heartbroken. I hope you feel better. <3
2007-08-08 14:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have handled it the best way possible. Now it will just take time for you to heal emotionally from the experience. You will eventually get better and you will find someone new.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 14:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by remowlms 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship with a man that had a baby by another woman. I think you need to evaluate your life with him & w/o him. find a place that you van be happy.
2007-08-08 14:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did, the right thing. Maybe in time you can tell him, that you can be just friends,but nothing more.
2007-08-16 10:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by criminal_justice2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. time heals all wounds, I guess you'll just have to wait it out.
Good Luck.
2007-08-08 14:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by Cody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋