How can I convince my parents to give me a little freedom?

Question

I mean, come on. I can't even talk to boys on the phone or hang out with them outside of school what do i do?

Answer 1

That depends a lot on how old you are. I also had very strict parents. And I snuck around. My advice: DON'T do what I did! :) Got me in some bad situations and stuff.
I would suggest talking to them, and working together with them to draw up some "ground rules" or "guidelines." (They would like the term "ground rules" :P ) Like for instance: if they let you call boys, you'll only do it from home when they're around or something - so they don't worry about what kind of stuff you're saying. Or set up a curfew for hanging out with guys, or let them meet the guys before you hang out with them.
If you're willing to abide by some rules that you both agree on (you may not like them at first though), then eventually it will help show your parents that you are trustworthy, and maybe in a few months or so, you can go over the rules agan to lighten them up to give you some more freedom.
I wrote this all based on my age when dealing with this...some of it may seem childish to you, but your parents will see you as a child until you can prove your maturity to them by acting responsible. (Believe me, I had many lectures about that stuff, and I wasn't even really a party girl or anything.)
Hope this helps, email me if you want to. (I have emailing available.)

Answer 2

I know this isn't going to be what you needed to hear, but did you ever think for a second that they may be doing it for your own good? I am not sure how old you are, or what your personality type is or what your parents see in you that they need to protect you from the evils of the world but I always wanted freedom too and it sure as heck didn't get me very far!

It actually got me into alot of bad moments in life and you are thinking "yeah, but that's you - not me!" and I said the same things and had the same objections to when someone tried to give me the same speech! Funny how life runs in circles like that - it's impossible for anyone to learn from someone else's mistakes!

Okay - so then I am going to spare you!

Go up to your parents and say "Can we have a serious talk? I know you mean the best for me, but unfortunately, I don't see things the same way you do, and I wanted to try to understand why you think it is an unnecessary evil for me to talk to boys on the phone? I mean, if you really think about it, suppressing my emotions by forcing me not to do something I want to do that is reasonable could have negative effects on me for a lifetime! Suppressing behaviors that are normal come back in strange ways and I could end up exploding one day and who knows? I could turn out to be a pornstar just because you didn't want me to even speak to boys on the phone! So, take your pick! Debbie Does Dallas or your sweet little girl who just wants a little bit of normal social interaction with the opposite sex - and don't worry - I don't need the sex education speech because that is the last thing on my mind! I just want healthy friendships and normal relationships with girls and boys. I just want to be like everybody else."

See if that works!

Answer 3

I'm not sure how old you are, but that is a bit extreme. Try talking to your parents and find out why they are so against it. If these are just friends, make that clear to your parents. That's the best you can do.

Answer 4

Wow.. i'm sorry.. yet while your only 12.. ur dad and mom are doing the wonderful suited element.. U have an entire existence time to develop up.. you're in this way of hurry for what? to die.. get raped back.. what? ur friends are pressuring you.. rejoice with existence for what it extremely is.. U are only youthful as quickly as.... it extremely is no longer the tip of the international to ask women over.. Be ur very own individual.. stable success

Answer 5

show them that they can trust you by the way you act talk, dress, handle yourself handle the money they give you...
It also might depends on your age may be you are too young. but give them some time. If this can help one day you will move out of the house and be on your own. be patient

Answer 6

Make a list of the events that have happened in your life that are examples of how well you handle issues like peer pressure, drugs, cigarettes, pressure from guys to have sex, etc.

No examples?

Your parents, and they sound like good ones to me, are going to need something convincing to base a change in their level of protection.

Age is not a basis and neither is "all my friends are allowed to do it".

Parents were once kids. We remember.

Answer 7

Talk to them. Tell them that you need a little freedom and that u r growing up. Ask them to compromise with you. Chances are they just can't bear that you aren't their little baby anymore.

Answer 8

Tell them their just friends. Some parents need to understand that home boys are no different from home girls.

Answer 9

ohh rough? depends how old you are. Parents can be REALLY overprotective. Mine arent now thank god. but they used to be so i know how you feel. Just prove to them you can be responsible and act more grown up, then they will slowly let you off the hook on things. I dont know how they are though so i dont know.

Answer 10

Aww, the poor ickle teenager can't waste time with boys instead of doing her homework and can't run up a huge phone bill that she won't pay but will expect her parents to pay...
What a pity!

Your parents have their reasons. Respect their wishes. The world does NOT revolve around you, you know!