I am 26/F and plan on getting remarried in another year or so. My first marriage only lasted 6 weeks but we had dated/lived together for 5 year prior to the wedding.
My Fiancee has never been married before.
Since this is OUR first marriage and really his first time for this - Am I really obliged to follow "second wedding traditions"?
2007-08-08 06:32:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You are not obligated to follow any rules or traditions that you do or do not want to follow.
Follow whatever YOU BOTH want to do, whether it be first wedding or second. White dress? SURE! Father giving you away? GO FOR IT!
Have the wedding the way YOU and your groom want, not the way other people expect it to happen.
2007-08-08 06:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are so many "not first marriage" weddings these days that tradition has been pretty much thrown out the window. One tradition I usually stongly suggest be followed is do not where white...there are a dozen shades of off white and it keeps from offending some of the older more traditional people that may be there. Other than that, plan it how you want it and what makes the 2 of you happy
2007-08-08 13:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on your first wedding, even if it only lasted 6 weeks. Was it an all out affair or a smaller wedding? If it was a huge event I would keep my second less extravagant, but that's just me. Many people are having second weddings as large as the first. I don't think the stigma still exists the way it used to.
2007-08-08 14:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tara C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. Do what you and your fiancee like. It's your day. I would say though, if you guys have been living together and really don't need any of the "traditional" wedding gifts, to put "only gift required is your presence" (or something like that) on your invitations. This helps relieve some of the pressure of your guests to figure out what kind of gift to get you.
2007-08-08 13:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by im here 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do things how you want them! Its your only marriage that counts, right? It was my first but my husbands second. We had a big wedding. Nobody said anything about him being married before. They were just happy to see that we made each other so happy.
p.s. I disagree about not wearing white. White orginally represented virginity. A lot brides are not virgins these days anyway.
2007-08-08 14:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Pumpkin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What are the "second wedding traditions"? Never heard of such a thing. Follow your feeling on what is right for the two of you.
2007-08-08 13:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because of your situation. No big white dress. Small ceremony, and a gathering at your home for famiy and close friends for dinner and a bit of a party.
2007-08-08 17:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋