so my ex and i got back together for a bit over the summer but we couldn't continue because i am going to school out of state. it wasn't until i was leaving did he say that he made a mistake in breaking up with me. we talk on the phone sometimes and we say i love you at the end of the convos...but i told him how much it hurts to say it and he agreed. and he keeps saying how much he misses me. but i have a feeling he's dating someone already...just a couple of weeks after i left. i know we have to move on but i wish he'd have the guts to tell me. he's supposed to call today and i'm just so angry at him. should i confront him about it?
2007-08-08 06:19:08 · 20 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he never tells me the truth about that kinda stuff...like when he started dating someone a couple of weeks after we broke up, when he had sex with 3 girls...after he swore that he would wait until marriage. i just feel like he's playing me. he wants his cake and to eat it too.
2007-08-08 06:20:32 · update #1
Forget the slob, he may have some good qualities but the bad outweigh the good,
You deserve better, forget him and th best way is with a clean break, a confrontation wont change a thing, he will only be sneakier.
2007-08-08 06:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I think: I think that you should confront him about. Beacuse it's obivous that you are hurting inside ... and isn't right for you to feel that way over some boy that is cheating on you. Because if he really cared about you then he wouldn't be seeing other girls when you two are "together". The way to solve your problems is by coming to a solution with the person is putting alot of input into the problem ... which would be your boyfriend. So when he calls you should have a serious conversation about that with him. And you mentioned that he never tells you the truth ... well why would you want to be in a relationship when you can't even trust him. And most people would probably say that if he is cheating on you ... then why don't you cheat on him? Well I honestly don't think that is the right direction to go either. I mean, it's all your choice because it is your relationship ... but it wouldn't be a healthy realtionship if both of you were cheating on eachother ... because if so then there would be no point for your relationship in the first place. Just talk it out ... because maybe something good can come from it. Maybe he might actually start telling you the truth once he knows how you feel. Maybe after the conversation you have with him you may find that he may be the right one for you. Or maybe you'll come to the conclusion that it was never meant to be. But you'll never know unless you talk to him.
--hope I helped
2007-08-08 06:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by lovexyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you think that while you are away for school you feel you should both be free to date other people, and that you while you are OK with keeping in touch - It will be just as friends. Then stick with that. Do not say I Love you - Do not give him any idea that you are his, do not indicate that you want him back when you come home.
Make new friends away a school and move that relationship to the back - try to shift it to email - rather than phone.
2007-08-08 06:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the way that you feel, why do you feel the need to hear it from him? Just move on. Go with your gut instinct. Obviously, if he has lied to you in the past, or not been entirely truthful, he knows that he can be this way with you and get away with it. You have taught him how to treat you by allowing him to get away with it. Honey, move on. Find someone else. Don't keep putting yourself in a position to let this person hurt you. It is not how relationships should be! You do not need him to tell you that he is seeing someone else. You do not need him to be honest about it with you. You just need to take care of yourself and leave him behind - be strong!
2007-08-08 06:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweety you have a lot to learn!
1st ex's should stay just that ex's.
Why put yourself through that pain. He dumped you so what. I take it that you are in college and trust me there are a lot of guys out there. One of these days you will meet a guy who will absolutely sweep you off your feet, one that just the thought of him brings a smile to you face and when you do you are going to be say who was that guy from high school or when ever that I used to date?
Don't try to rush things I don't know if you are religious but God has a plan for you and he has your guy picked out you just have to trust in that and when the time is right he will be revealed to you.
2007-08-08 06:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet!
If he is trying to sleep with you and sleeping around with other gals, what kinds of sexually transmitted diseases will he be giving to you because he cannot keep his unit in his boxers?
He is playing you like a black book, how many 'scores' can he rack up to tell his buddies so they can compare tales of their conquests.....
Find someone that will respect you and the relationship, and get rid of that fool. If he disrespects you now, how about later?
If he WAS serious about you, he would not be sleeping around like you have said that he was... He wants to have sexual conquests and wrap you around his finger by having you in an emotional tizzy....
Don't let his ploys get the best of you... like the, 'i miss you' lines... Yolure being played... If he reallly missed you or loved you, sleeping with 3 girls would be one of the last things a guy would do...
Dump the wannabe player and get a real man... You deserve someone better...
2007-08-08 06:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dee_Smithers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your life no matter how hard it is. Your relationship is over because you can't trust him and never will. If you ignore him and don't take his calls you will clearly get your point across to him that you are better than what he is giving to you and that you are moving on. It will be so hard in the beginning but let him go. Don't just dive into another relationship either, immerse yourself into activities, friends and start to heal. Just remember that you deserve better than this.
2007-08-08 06:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok heres my advice dump him he is so lyeing if hes cheating on u and he wont tell u the truth u have every right to dump him hes an un fair n o afense hes a jerk u deserve alot better and like they say theres lots of fishes in the sea.
2007-08-08 06:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by ahahn525 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he`s n0thin` tr0uble sweetie.y0u can`t trust men these day`s they will tell y0u anything t0 get in y0ur pants.or to have tw0 girlfriend`s ii have been through this situation trust me when the truth finally comes out you will want to kill him!!!!lol but that`s all ii can realli tell y0u cuz boy`s are unpredictable.y0u can`t trust him s0 find someone else because y0u can d0 much better.GLAD I COULD HELP!!!!!!
2007-08-08 06:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you are in separate states then forget about him. He is not worth it if he doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you. I would not take his phone calls and just be done with him as hard as it might be. GOOD LUCK
2007-08-08 06:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋